tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-72281660987404314312024-03-18T06:08:31.151-04:00TWINS RUN in our familyIdentical Twins and Marathon MomsTWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.comBlogger371125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-65646282677437494602024-03-18T06:07:00.004-04:002024-03-18T06:07:37.375-04:00Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) Advocacy Day - Malinda Ann Hill Will Share Her Story on Wednesday, May 8, 2024<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhytJdwlrnMigCzKyJ0TA-32PHxETY78ksMKguskCSQkf8Hk0X-TCFblR2hhzFDpvm6n9almQJ3QSZ3Ipk75PJq3ORYUI6hOQCkfPBb-Q0FtfD1mWdJ-kfWB6bgelzLjUw7nIotQMnJS2rCX1aUyUz-ZagIBZY2zn34QiQjC9_Q9vWymR1VpJX-QR13wj8/s1080/428689769_10228182608085057_7780777537673429228_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhytJdwlrnMigCzKyJ0TA-32PHxETY78ksMKguskCSQkf8Hk0X-TCFblR2hhzFDpvm6n9almQJ3QSZ3Ipk75PJq3ORYUI6hOQCkfPBb-Q0FtfD1mWdJ-kfWB6bgelzLjUw7nIotQMnJS2rCX1aUyUz-ZagIBZY2zn34QiQjC9_Q9vWymR1VpJX-QR13wj8/s320/428689769_10228182608085057_7780777537673429228_n.jpg" width="320" /></a><br /><br /><div>Malinda Ann Hill will join the Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) in Washington, D.C. for Advocacy Day 2024. We encourage others to join us, too!<br /><br />This year, we will be advocating for the following initiatives:<div><br /></div><div>Nutrition CARE Act (<a href="https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/house-bill/6961/text?s=1&r=2&q=%7B%22search%22%3A%22nutrition+care+act%22%7D">H.R.1331</a>/<a href="https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/3010?q=%7B%22search%22%3A%22nutrition+care+act%22%7D&s=1&r=1">S.754</a>): The legislation will require Medicare Part B to provide coverage for medical nutrition therapy for eating disorders.<br /><br /></div><div>Kids Online Safety Act (<a href="https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/1409?q=%7B%22search%22%3A%5B%22kids+online+safety+act%22%5D%7D&s=1&r=1">S.1409</a>): The legislation will provide kids and parents with the safeguards, tools, and transparency they need to protect against threats to children and teens' health and wellbeing online. <br /><br /></div><div>Three partial scholarships will be available to assist with travel and lodging costs. Apply: <a href="https://forms.gle/FUatAWknbjavfVPw8">https://forms.gle/FUatAWknbjavfVPw8</a>. Application closes Monday, March 18, 2024.<br /><br />IMPORTANT DATES & TIMES:<br /><br />Wednesday, May 1st</div><div>6 PM to 7 PM EST</div><div>Advocacy 101 Training (virtual). This is an optional training for first time advocates and/or advocates who would like a refresher on in person advocacy days.<br /><br />Wednesday, May 8th</div><div>8:30 AM to 9:00 AM EST</div><div>Advocacy Day Check In & Breakfast<br />9:00 AM to 11:00 AM EST</div><div>Message Training & Team Practice<br />11:00 AM to 3:30 PM EST</div><div>Congressional Meetings (a 45-minute lunch break will be scheduled into your day)<br />4 PM to 5 PM E<span style="text-align: center;">ST</span></div><div>Wrap Up Session<br /><br /></div><div>Information for travel, hotel recommendations, for getting around Washington, D.C., and tips for packing can be found in our resource guide <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1gvGKBdOn3vPXaOQyb_nD1DEn46ds_KnCHzVber8XjNA/edit?usp=sharing">here</a>.<br /><br />PLEASE NOTE: Registering for EDC's Advocacy Day to meet with your legislators is a serious commitment. A great deal of work goes into scheduling the appointments. Please only register if you know you can commit your full day on May 8th.<br /><br />Register here: <a href="https://secure.everyaction.com/ebo_v8dwokePZpT_tzYsAw2">secure.everyaction.com/ebo_v8dwokePZpT_tzYsAw2</a></div><div><br /></div><div><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjke16YqHgTLiqdxbwAlPo1wha3ujDSy6dtlUen4QUp-PF5PexFp7HbGIM3trrmsZAfrugaj63Efwlms5IYax3Ac0P_H7jNxyGcK2RRgV4kwdr8kTXnxcKR9cW-GtvIMwcM-H83Y9WBtm_m8JX8BPg6BRdxp5QuwPCOOXb5Kn0V0s_5C9Uzas2l1Zr4JYw/s1500/EDC%202024%20Advocacy%20Day%20(Twitter%20Header)%20(2).png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="1500" height="134" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjke16YqHgTLiqdxbwAlPo1wha3ujDSy6dtlUen4QUp-PF5PexFp7HbGIM3trrmsZAfrugaj63Efwlms5IYax3Ac0P_H7jNxyGcK2RRgV4kwdr8kTXnxcKR9cW-GtvIMwcM-H83Y9WBtm_m8JX8BPg6BRdxp5QuwPCOOXb5Kn0V0s_5C9Uzas2l1Zr4JYw/w400-h134/EDC%202024%20Advocacy%20Day%20(Twitter%20Header)%20(2).png" width="400" /></a></div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-42470572128515959162023-07-20T05:40:00.002-04:002023-07-24T14:44:39.433-04:00Humane Rejection Letters: Be Kind, Be Personal<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4lWGYipIbF5H_UGRFZyOTLDkfuGKxSfay1DhOLnnVZaLoGrYs23VxYiApb6POg2ag-p5e0Red1hRWVmsCNwOc4cM1locLMWAFaa--gNL9aaHKNqkxbVFd9RYKJA9qDNlVEvdang1y1OJnnqYH_0b2mpd0EIE6U0FCq6ccEToBoAeuzLNFXv25Wqdx_ws/s1168/p412.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1168" data-original-width="946" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj4lWGYipIbF5H_UGRFZyOTLDkfuGKxSfay1DhOLnnVZaLoGrYs23VxYiApb6POg2ag-p5e0Red1hRWVmsCNwOc4cM1locLMWAFaa--gNL9aaHKNqkxbVFd9RYKJA9qDNlVEvdang1y1OJnnqYH_0b2mpd0EIE6U0FCq6ccEToBoAeuzLNFXv25Wqdx_ws/s320/p412.png" width="259" /></a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.org/blog/humane-rejection-letters-be-nice-be-kind-be-personal">Humane Rejection Letters: Be Kind, Be Personal</a><br /><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.org/blog/humane-rejection-letters-be-nice-be-kind-be-personal">By Leah Connor on 4/26/2022</a><br /><br />I think I’ve applied for at least 500 jobs (more than half of those via LinkedIn’s Easy Apply feature which makes it super quick and simple).<br /><br /><div>Although I don’t keep a record of every single job application, I do have an extensive spreadsheet with data on all of my interviews, including the rejection letters.<br /><br />Since I’ve turned 50, I’ve had conversations with over 50 companies and the vast majority have sent me generic and impersonal rejection letters, often only after I followed-up asking for an update.<br /><br />The more templated form letters I receive after interviews, the more I find this to be completely unacceptable and unnecessarily demoralizing.<br /><br />I’m not a HR expert, but I’m a human being and I know that I share a lot about myself and my experiences in every interview. It would mean so much to me if I would receive a message referencing something positive and unique about our interaction rather than an impersonal template letter.<br /><br />I strongly believe that if you meet with someone for an hour, especially if it’s more than once, there’s absolutely no excuse for a generic rejection.<br /><br />I’ve actually received better rejection letters from companies that I never spoke with than I have from places I met on 2-3 separate occasions. In retrospect, I’m grateful that things didn’t work out with companies that aren’t kind in the interviewing process. It’s usually a sign of bigger human resources issues.<br /><br />I believe the best systems for responding to applicants is to have an automatic email reply to all submissions that explains that they’ll only be contacted again if they are selected for an interview. It never feels good to get a rejection letter weeks or months later from a position. you never interviewed for and you almost forgot you applied.<br /><br />For example:<br /><i><br />Dear [first name],</i></div><div><i><span> </span>Thank you for your interest in career opportunities with [company]. We are pleased that you have considered our organization as a potential for your future career endeavors.<br /><span> </span>Our team is currently reviewing your credentials for the [job title] opportunity and will contact you should there be an interest in discussing your qualifications further. Otherwise, your information will be kept on file for future consideration.<br /><span> </span>Again, we appreciate your interest in [company]. We wish you much success in your job search.<br />Sincerely,</i><br /><br />After my most recent rejection, I searched for resources on rejection letters to find that there are plenty of professionals who agree with me on the importance of being personal in a letter to someone you’ve met for an interview.<br /><br />Here are some highlights:</div><div><br />For anyone with whom you’ve had a conversation (i.e., beyond an initial resume screen where you’ve had a first round phone screen), don’t use a generic letter from a job rejection letter template. This is one I feel very strongly about. If you’ve had more than a five minute conversation with someone, you should be able to specify briefly why the candidate hasn’t made it to the next round. By adding even one point referencing your conversation from the interview process, you’ll provide a basic rationale to your decision related to her own candidacy.</div><div><br />The deeper in the recruiting and hiring process someone goes, the more you “owe” them am actual specific rationale for your decision. Particularly, if someone’s had any amount of in person interviews, or even more so, have completed any type of assignment for you as part of the evaluation, there’s no excuse for not providing some level of personalization. The candidate took time to prepare, engage with you recruiters, travel to your office, possibly reschedule other commitments or obligations, etc. They’re receiving potentially bad news now; be respectful of her efforts and appreciative of her interests in your company.</div><div><br /></div><div>Source: <a href="https://www.comeet.com/resources/blog/how-to-write-job-candidate-rejection-letters">comeet</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-write-rejection-letter">Offer some positive aspects about their qualifications or interview</a><br />To leave a good impression with the candidate, choose one or two qualities that you liked about them. Describing these positive aspects can also help them better understand the strengths that they can highlight more moving forward.<br /><br /></div><div>Source: <a href="https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-write-rejection-letter">indeed.com</a><br /><br /><a href="https://jobadder.com/us/blog/how-to-write-a-rejection-letter-after-an-interview/">Personalise the rejection letter</a><br />Too often, generic templates are sent to unsuccessful candidates where they not only sound robotic, stiff and dishonest but display a negative and poor representation of the company and recruiter.<br />When sending rejection letters, <a href="https://accountests.com/news/how-to-write-a-job-rejection-letter">personalise it by mentioning something positive</a> you noted during the interview, and make sure their name is spelled correctly; attention to detail shows you made an effort. Of course, it’s understandable that recruiters may be dealing with 50 job openings at any given time and <a href="https://jobadder.com/applicant-tracking-software">managing hundreds of candidates</a> waiting for a response. But try and see it like this: your candidate could one day be your client, consumer or employer.<br /><br /></div><div>Source: <a href="https://jobadder.com/us/blog/how-to-write-a-rejection-letter-after-an-interview/">Job Adder</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.mdpi.com/2076-328X/9/10/102">The Effect of Different Rejection Letters on Applicants’ Reactions</a><br />Organisations appear to pay little attention to rejection letters, considered a special form of organisational communication, despite a growing body of literature that shows they play an important role in terms of employer branding. This study aims to empirically test how applicants’ perceptions are affected by differently manipulated rejection letters. In detail, a sample of 138 rejected candidates filled in an ad hoc questionnaire on perceived selection procedure fairness and satisfaction, after receiving a rejection letter where we had manipulated time latency, the politeness formula and customisation. Results suggest that providing a timely, customised and informal notification is something agreeable, which is able to affect, above all, fairness perceptions and intention to re-apply. In detail, the time latency in giving feedback appears to affect the relationship between fairness perception and organisational recommendation and acts more as a mediator rather than an antecedent variable. Considering that providing feedback is a relatively low-cost activity that at the same time has a big impact on job applicants, our results show that organisations should be sensitive to negative feedback communication, especially in relation to response time, in order to support their employer branding.<br /></div><div>Source: <a href="https://www.mdpi.com/2076-328X/9/10/102">behavioral sciences</a><br /><br />The candidate took time out of her week to prepare for your interview process, so if you were impressed by her during the interview, it could make a huge difference to let her know. Simply include one strength of hers you remembered from the interview process, like "Our team was particularly impressed with your writing skills."<br /><br />To truly add value, however, you'll also want to include constructive feedback to help your candidate understand areas she can focus on improving. Take detailed notes during the interview, and when you reject your applicant, provide one or two areas of improvement. Your feedback could help her career success in the future.<br /><br />Source: <a href="https://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/rejection-letter">HubSpot</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.nicereply.com/blog/perfect-rejection-letter/">Be personal</a><br />Templates make things much more manageable and assure that you address everything that you need to in each rejection. Leave sections in your templates for personalization. Mention the candidate’s name in the opening and sign the message with your own. Take ownership over the rejection, rather than just hiding behind your company’s name. If you’ve spoken with them or they’ve gone through the process, mention something from your conversation if you can. Providing personal details helps the candidate feel like they are more than just a number to you and can soften the rejection blow.<br />Source: <a href="https://www.nicereply.com/blog/perfect-rejection-letter/">Nicereply.</a><br /></div><div><br /></div><a href="https://www.flowrite.com/blog/candidate-rejection-email">Be kind </a><br />Spending a little time reflecting on a candidate's experience can make the job seeker feel your decision is considered and fair. A rejection with no explanation can lead to confusion, frustration, and upset.<br /><div><i>Source: <a href="https://www.flowrite.com/blog/candidate-rejection-email">Flowrite</a></i></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://toggl.com/blog/rejection-letter">Offer feedback</a><br />A lot of companies don’t give feedback as a policy to prevent themselves from possible lawsuits. However, a little goes a long way, and you don’t have to be incredibly specific to give the candidate something of value. However, if you want to go the extra mile, tell them why you chose someone else and why the were not a good fit for the role. Good candidates will appreciate the opportunity to better themselves professionally. Plus, reading an “it’s not you, it’s us” type rejection letter can help soothe the ego hit of getting rejection after rejection. You never know, it could be the very thing that pushes them in a totally new career direction!<br /><i>Source: <a href="https://toggl.com/blog/rejection-letter">toggl</a><br /></i><br /><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-43565989160941703142023-07-20T05:22:00.002-04:002023-07-20T05:30:15.651-04:00How Soon Is Now?: Promises and Accountability in Life and the Job Hunt<br /><table class="wsite-not-footer" id="blogTable" style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #8e8e8e; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; table-layout: fixed; width: 912px;"><tbody><tr><td valign="top"><div class="blog-body" id="400311244917630058-blog" style="float: left; width: 628px;"><div id="wsite-content"><div class="blog-post" id="blog-post-755221232323689358" style="position: relative; zoom: 1;"><div class="blog-header" style="border: none; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px; overflow: hidden; padding: 0px; width: 628px;"><h2 class="blog-title" style="border: none; font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px;"><a style="font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" height="229" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/c99738e8-0eb2-4e6e-b948-3f4e42488637_orig.jpeg" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" width="400" /></span></a></h2><h2 class="blog-title" style="border: none; font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px;"><br /></h2><div style="border: none; font-family: Lora, sans-serif; line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"><b><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.org/blog/january-23rd-2022">How Soon Is Now?: Promises and Accountability in Life and the Job Hunt</a></b></span></div><p class="blog-date" style="float: left; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="date-text" style="cursor: pointer; float: left; font: inherit; margin: 0px 8px 0px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="color: black;"><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.org/blog/january-23rd-2022">by Leah Connor 1/23/2022</a></span></span></p><p class="blog-comments" style="float: right; font-size: 13px; line-height: 1; margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 4px;"></p></div><div class="blog-separator" style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(221, 221, 221); clear: both; font-size: 2px; height: 2px; margin-bottom: 5px; margin-top: 0px; padding-top: 2px;"><span style="color: black;"><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.org/blog/january-23rd-2022"> </a></span></div><div class="blog-content" style="clear: both; margin-bottom: 15px; text-align: justify;"><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: left;"><br /><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">I completely missed out on the “West Elm Caleb” witch hunt in real time. I saw some references on twitter, had no idea what it was about, but kept scrolling. Today I finally read a piece in <em style="position: relative;">The Washington Post</em> about what happened.<br /><br /><em style="position: relative;">The result is a chain of memeification, where the person becomes a metaphor for something larger.Why people choose to partake in this phenomenon often lies in the gray area between wanting to fit in and wanting to hold people accountable, Richards said. With West Elm Caleb being a “stand-in for sucky men,” it made it easier for women to go after a figure “that society doesn’t generally hold responsible” — those, she said, are “very legitimate emotions.”</em><br /><br />I’ve spent a lot of time over the past week thinking about injustice and accountability, human decency and protocols, laws versus morals, right and wrong. <br /><br />This Caleb situation felt strangely familiar to me although I’ve been happily married for 21 years. I haven’t been scrolling hinge or bumble, but I have been methodically checking LinkedIn, Idealist, and a few nonprofit and running related job boards. I haven’t gone on dozens of first dates, but I’ve had 50+ interviews over the past two years. The emotions involved in looking for true love and trying to find a new job are quite similar and it ain’t easy. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight: 700;">“The One”</span><br />In the midst of pandemic-related layoffs and the great resignation, many job-seekers are spending hours writing tailored cover letters, preparing for zoom interviews, and waiting. And, for many, the waiting is the hardest part. Especially for someone eager for a new opportunity and suffering from an anxiety disorder. <br /><br />So many of the emotions I’ve experienced in the job hunt are ones absent in my life for more than 20 years. It’s true that I haven’t had an interview since the 1990s, but I also haven’t had a date. The feelings involved in searching for the one - the one perfect love or the one perfect career - are quite similar and it’s exhausting. It’s emotionally draining to go from excitement to hopelessness, from anticipation to desperation, from confidence to rejection. <br /><br />I joke that I could probably go into Human Resources now because I’ve learned so much about the hiring process and how to make it fair, inclusive, and compassionate. I plan to explore everything I’ve learned and all my recommendations in future posts, but I feel compelled to get something written about this today because I’m feeling quite raw and writing helps me heal.</span></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: 700;"><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">1. Do not post a job without including the salary range.</span></span></h2><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/c14c5a0f-7b33-41ff-8cc5-52f790eb1e01_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">My favorite local job board is the Center for Nonprofit Excellence because of this:<br />“Effective January 2020, CNE will review all submissions before going live to ensure salary ranges are listed as part of our commitment to equity and transparency.”<br /><br />I really don’t like to play guessing games. Posting a job announcement without including a salary range is like listing a house for sale without an asking price. It makes no sense and it’s wasting everybody’s time. <br /><br />Yes, there should be room for negotiation and salary is not the only thing that determines whether or not a position is the right fit, but if an organization or company is not willing to be transparent about salaries then it’s not somewhere I want to work. One of my first employers, AcademyHealth, would give all positions a level with an accompanying salary range and that information was available to everyone including potential applicants. That compensation visibility spoiled me for future positions where everything was a secret. <br /></span></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-weight: 700;"><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">2. Utilize auto reply.</span></span></h2><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/a6953ab9-1345-4837-b9d0-a230e4b8118c_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">If you have applicants send an email to apply for a position, then set up an auto reply. Keep it simple and honest. “We’ve received your resume. If your qualifications match our needs, we will contact you.” </span></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">3. Schedule interviews with Calendly, Doodle, or similar software. </span></span></h2><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/743e57c4-c653-4d63-a960-be708c3006cb_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">Nothing feels like a bigger waste of time than sending multiple emails back and forth to schedule an interview when there is scheduling software available to make it easier for everyone. </span></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">4. Give an overview of the hiring process with firm dates on when decisions will be made and honor those.</span></span></h2><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/77d88aeb-f285-4ae8-9bd9-5719005d716d_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">I’ve seen position announcements that include all the stages of the interviewing process with dates and I’ve found that to be quite useful. <br />i.e., <br />Target Date to Hire: <br />Hiring Timeline:</span><ul style="list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: outside; margin: 5px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 3em !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 3em;"><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Job Posting Opens</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Job Posting Closes</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Conduct Phone Screens</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Conduct Virtual Interviews</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Conduct Final Interviews</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Selection, Reference Checks & Job Offer</span></li><li style="list-style: outside disc; margin: 3px 0px 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 5px;"><span style="color: black;">Day One!</span></li></ul><span style="color: black;">When applying for a position, it would be really useful to know what’s involved in the hiring process. If this isn’t included in the announcement, then employers should provide that information when scheduling the initial phone screen or when a candidate makes it past that first screening. <br /><br />As expected, I’ve had many more phone screens and virtual interviews than final interviews. I’ve learned to ask for specifics about when decisions will be made regarding next steps and I appreciate when these deadlines are honored. </span></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 10px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: right;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/d7d0b002-f8b1-4c52-90be-81f6672e4b6b_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">5. Interviews should only be one part of the hiring process.</span></span></h2><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">One of my greatest strengths (and weakness) is my honesty. I really hate interviews and sometimes I am really not very good at them. Often I’ll admit that to a prospective employer even though I know I probably shouldn’t, but it’s the truth. I have an anxiety disorder and sometimes it gets in the way of me making a good first impression. I’d much rather complete an assignment or project to demonstrate my ability to perform the tasks necessary for the role. Yet I’ve only been asked to do something like this a handful of times. I might not always be great at interviews, but I know that the depth of my experience and the quality of my resume and portfolio showcases my creativity, enthusiasm, and strong work ethic. I would take any opportunity to work on a project tailored to a particular position to see if I would make a good fit.<br /></span></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/73edf442-d6ec-476f-ba60-118169993671_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-weight: 700;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Consider requesting videos or sharing interview questions in advance.</span></span><br />Preparation is a crucial part to my success. One of the reasons I hate interviews is because I never know what I’m going to be asked so I feel unprepared at the onset which causes anxiety. If I ever had the chance to review the questions before an interview, I know I would be more succinct. If a job doesn’t involve public speaking without having prepared remarks, then why do we ask that of applicants? Asking candidates to submit a video with their answers to a few complex questions beforehand is a great way to even the playing field. </span></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/f58247af-2e01-406e-a214-b40d1901d9b4_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-weight: 700;"><span style="font-size: medium;">Require an assignment. </span></span><br />The first time I was asked to create a presentation before an interview I felt liberated. I thought, wow, they’ll get to see my creativity, skills, and work ethic before they even meet me. This is awesome! It was a great learning experience even though I didn’t get the job. When I didn’t make it to the next round, I was offered the option to receive feedback on my interview from the hiring company. The analysis I received ended with the opportunity to pay for Coaching Services. ?!?!?! That seemed rather shady and perhaps unethical, but luckily it was the nudge I needed to talk with my dad, a retired successful strategic marketing consultant, as a free resource for career advice. He’s been a lifesaver!<br /></span></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/eb1c8b00-c9ca-4865-b17a-d702987ef725_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a><div style="font-size: 13.5px;"></div></div></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">6. Personalize correspondence with applicants you’ve interviewed and who have completed tasks.</span></strong></h2><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-weight: 700;">People who are interviewed deserve a prompt response and more than a form letter.</span><br />I’ve been ghosted by so many potential employers and even though everyone tells me not to take it personally and that’s just the way it is, I cannot accept that. If you create a connection with another human being by having a conversation with them, albeit a staged professional one, they deserve to be treated with respect and honesty. <br /><br />I never say I’m going to do something and then not do it. Not in my personal life and not in any of my professional or volunteer roles. Responsiveness and communication are top priority for me and my expectations of others are based on what I give and provide. <br /><br />“No news is bad news” when you’re in the job hunt, but when I receive a response from a company that never even interviewed me, I feel even more hurt and angry at the individuals who met me, spent time with me, and still never gave me an authentic response and official rejection letter. <br /><br />True story: I had an interview with someone on the evening before Thanksgiving and although I sent a thank you to multiple emails immediately after and then followed up a week later, the final email I received from the person who scheduled the interview was: “Thank you so much for sharing this information. We will be in touch with next steps.” That was 11/30/21. It’s 1/23/22. Yeah, I know I didn’t get the job, but it would have been nice if someone confirmed that.<br /><br />I recently had a conversation with my sister about this “pet peeve” of ours - when someone doesn’t follow through on a promise. That’s how I came across this amazing organization: “because I said I would.”<br /><br />“because I said I would is a social movement and nonprofit dedicated to the betterment of humanity through promises made and kept. We are changing lives through character development programs and volunteer projects in partnership with schools, juvenile detention centers, prisons and communities.”<br /><br />This seems like a movement I could have started! I’m excited to learn more and volunteer to help.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: 700;">People who submit an assignment and/or go through multiple rounds of interviews deserve a personal note.</span><br />The reason I’m writing this today is because I just endured a torturous week. On Monday, January 10, I had a second interview for a position at an organization where I felt I would thrive. I completed two group interviews and an assignment and was told a final decision would be made the following week. I honestly thought I was perfect for the role and would get an offer on Monday or Tuesday. When that didn’t happen, I couldn’t take the anxiety of waiting anymore so I sent an email asking “when” a final would be made. Four hours later I received a message with the five most frustrating words in the hiring process: <span style="font-weight: 700;">“We will be in touch soon.” </span><br /><br />For someone with anxiety, the word “soon” is akin to ghosting. I know there are studies out there documenting how people who know they have to wait x number of hours for something can handle the waiting better than people who are repeatedly given a vague delay without any clear end in sight. It’s why those upcoming train boards on the DC metro almost made commuting less stressful. When interviewing feels like a delayed train with no ETA it zaps the energy out of you and it makes it harder to prepare for other interviews. In a word, it sucks.<br /><br />I’ve gotten to the point where I can start compiling the pros/cons of any potential offer so that if it never comes I can console myself… to a degree. I’ve been seeing a lot of articles and cartoons lately about imposter syndrome and the pains of unemployment. In a society that asks, “So what do you do for a living?” it can feel quite demoralizing to be unemployed whether or not it’s by choice. </span></div><h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="font-family: Lora, sans-serif; font-size: 1.7em; font-weight: normal; margin: 0px auto 0.3em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px;"><strong><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;">Identity and Acts of Kindness</span></strong></h2><div class="paragraph" style="line-height: 1.5; margin: 0px auto 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word; padding: 0px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;">When I was unable to sleep on Friday night I caught an episode of “Back On The Record with Bob Costas” with Lindsey Vonn talking about how skiing is something she loves to do, but it’s “not who I am. It doesn’t define me as a person.” <br /><br />And I was like whoa!!!! I had an epiphany. Here I was feeling like a complete loser because I didn’t get offered a job that I really wanted, but that decision didn’t actually change who I am. It doesn’t define me as a person. It’s their loss and maybe it will eventually be my gain because I’ll be available for an even better opportunity. Either way, there are so many things that make me proud of the person I am and what I do for money is not at the top of the list anymore. <br /><br />When you interview someone and they are honest and raw about their strengths and weaknesses, please treat them with compassion when you decide to pursue another candidate. Including just one reference to something unique to their application and interview would mean a world of difference to someone who’s put themselves out there to be rated and judged. <br /><br />Sure, it might be easier for you to send out a generic rejection letter regardless of the personal efforts someone made to join your company, but receiving a response full of standard “we regret to inform you” cliches, one that has been cut and pasted and could have been sent to someone you never even met negates any positive connections that were made during the interview. Please take the time to be kind, empathic, and sincere. </span></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none" style="margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 10px; padding-top: 10px; position: relative; text-align: center;"><a style="transition: all 0.2s ease-in-out 0s;"><span style="color: black;"><img alt="Picture" src="https://www.agoodgroup.org/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/a5546458-8ff5-47cf-a063-444020f5df51_orig.png" style="border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-style: initial; border-width: 0px !important; border: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: auto;" /></span></a></div></div></div></div></div></div></td></tr></tbody></table>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-42330335648097007802023-07-15T05:05:00.002-04:002023-07-15T05:12:19.084-04:00Life as a twin rewarding, despite the occasional confusion<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTLCiSQxNLM1YMPbVgD2JEVJRWOqWRiOXv8Fbl5hZX5XIqWgGGJBbnqw6il0_rM_ZUXMzQEAR6x3S4mDER-dasmvBp9NV-jAtcWcw1PJx6H3lkJFLGDP8Cbq51wB3yeFxsRQ_DmeekYiAlI2H68PltnB_oE4RJyjudNO0Y3iwiStkGVTv_0FCoRoCFLsA/s800/353403525_730411662418447_7764027103678507238_n.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTLCiSQxNLM1YMPbVgD2JEVJRWOqWRiOXv8Fbl5hZX5XIqWgGGJBbnqw6il0_rM_ZUXMzQEAR6x3S4mDER-dasmvBp9NV-jAtcWcw1PJx6H3lkJFLGDP8Cbq51wB3yeFxsRQ_DmeekYiAlI2H68PltnB_oE4RJyjudNO0Y3iwiStkGVTv_0FCoRoCFLsA/s320/353403525_730411662418447_7764027103678507238_n.jpg" /></a><br /><a href="http://twitter.com/malindaannhill"><br />Malinda Ann Hill </a>is writing an updated version of <a href="http://twitter.com/leahcville">Leah Connor</a>'s "<a href="https://www.psucollegian.com/archives/life-as-a-twin-rewarding-despite-the-occasional-confusion/article_8e48d64a-3e73-5285-a2c3-7f3e56bdca80.html">Life as a twin rewarding, despite the occasional confusion</a>" and the working title is "Real Runners of Charlottesville"<br /><br />Life as a twin rewarding, despite the occasional confusion<br />Leah Hill<br />October 24, 1991 <br />My Opinion<div>Daily Collegian </div><div><br />As the weeks go by, more people are beginning to recognize me from my columns. Unfortunately, I haven't actually talked to all of these people because some of them have recognized my twin sister -- not me.<br /><br />So, I decided to let everyone know that there is a person out there who resembles me. To be honest, it is more like a warning --I don't think I can be responsible for the actions of my twin sister, Mindy. She might not be so nice, friendly and understanding to the next person who calls her Leah.<br /><br />But who could blame her? Wouldn't you begin to get a little upset and/or have an identity crisis if people who even had classes with you don't remember you as Mindy, but instead ask, "Hey, don't you write for the Collegian?"<br /><br />Personally, I enjoy being a twin. It's usually the first thing I tell people about myself. I figure it is a good conversation starter. If my twin isn't there by my side when I first meet someone, most people ask if we are identical. Here is where I sort of get stuck.<br /><br />There's this genetic thing that I'm not quite sure about so I end up sounding like a complete idiot.<br /><br />"Well, most people think we look alike but, to tell you the truth, I'm not quite sure if the egg split or if there were, in fact, two eggs. I'll have to get back to you on that one."<br /><br />As it is common for those children who aren't the first born, Mindy and I have considerably fewer baby pictures than my older sister Heather. The excuse my parents gave me for this lack of a pictoral history is that they were too busy trying to keep both of us fed and dry. They didn't always have the time to capture the moment with Kodak.<br /><br />Yeah, sure. It wouldn't be so bad if the few photos we do have weren't, well, how should I put this, somewhat ambiguous. The problem is we aren't actually sure who is who. It's always fun having my friends try to guess which baby or toddler is me. However, they are a little disappointed when they expect a definite answer and I regretfully inform them that their guess is as good as mine.<br /><br />But, I shouldn't be so hard on my parents. Mindy and I have had the same problem. Last month, we were looking through some recent pictures and Mindy said, "That's a really good picture of you." At first I agreed with her, but a minute or two later (after realizing that I had never worn that outfit) I said, "Hey Mindy, that's not me, it's YOU!" It was a scary moment.<br /><br />People often ask if we ever dressed alike. When we were little all of our relatives would give us identical outfits. It was always a thrill when we got matching outfits in different colors and had to fight over who got which color. However, as we got older we realized that we would have twice the wardrobe potential if we had different clothes. I must stress the word potential because it's not always feasible to borrow a sweater from your sister when you are having an argument.<br /><br />Finally, most people want to know if I like being a twin. For the most part, it's great. But, this mistaken identity thing, although it is amusing, can get on my nerves. Sometimes it's not worth trying to explain to someone that I am not who they think I am. I just smile and go on my merry way. Other times people will go on talking to me without giving me the chance to say, "Hey, wait a minute, I am NOT Mindy, leave me alone."<br /><br />My freshman year at Pitt I lived with six people and I didn't have the chance to let them all know about Mindy. So for the first few weeks I got the reputation of being unfriendly because I (in reality, Mindy) didn't say hello to them on the street. Therefore, I have been conditioned to say "hi" to people I don't even know just because I don't want them to think that my sister is rude.<br /><br />The most memorable experience of mistaken identity here at Penn State was during the summer at Ritenour. Mindy and I ended up being there at the same time. Mistake.<br /><br />The nurse kindly showed me to the doctor's office. As I nervously sat there I heard all sorts of commotion outside. Then, the nurse came back and said, "Didn't I tell you to go to the room across the hall?" I said no.<br /><br />And then it hit me, she doesn't know who I am. After about fifteen minutes and a mini-conference among the nurse, doctor and a few other people, we got the whole thing straightened out. Ever since then, Mindy and I make sure to schedule appointments on different days.<br /><br />Despite the occasional identity crisis and having to share a birthday, I never regret being a twin. Although even if I did, there really isn't anything I could do about it.<br /><br />Not all twins get along, but Mindy is my best friend. She really understands me and not just because in the eyes of some people she has actually been me. We have a special connection. Therefore, in the hope of keeping my sister's sanity in check (not to mention for other people's safety) I'll give you some tips on telling us apart.<br /><br />If you see "me" carrying an art portfolio, it's Mindy. She's the artist. If you see me in the computer lab, feel free to say "hi" and compliment me on my column. If you see "me" working in The Gap, it's really Mindy. If I'm working in the HUB Eateries, again feel free to say "hi."<br /><br />If, despite these guidelines, you still happen to say "Hi Leah, I like your column," to my sister and she lets you have it, please don't let that stop you from reading my next column.<br /><i><br />Leah Hill is a junior majoring in women's studies and a Thursday columnist for The Daily Collegian.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i><br /><br /></i><br /><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-56495614250687637272022-07-16T21:16:00.006-04:002022-10-27T10:39:24.723-04:00TWINS RUN 2022 Chicago Marathon with Team Lemon in Memory of Michael and GG <p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="#"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEioKdE34261j3jOHTjB3121k_YFo2586lYEr9r_-TFX1TSyHsO5CdmG6rDJEXkydm0woxdgdHUYJOZxnUZIvKMqVW6Y8CuBugeAqXwiGHbd8lWoMyt0pOApCIxiKy8P3UPE7Ue1Kymy3B7SbkaNYk-KXdvEM9mZRry6OXFHHGXP1ijGvOCSjNPfSyoF/w320-h320/Team%20Lemon.jpeg" /></a><br /><br /><br />Michael, <a href="#">Leah Connor</a>’s Irish brother-in-law, died from relapsed childhood leukemia on St. Patrick’s Day 2003. Ten years ago, <a href="#">Leah and Malinda </a>joined <a href="#">Team Lemon</a> so we could run our first <a href="#">Bank of America Chicago Marathon</a> together in his memory to support <a href="#">Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation</a>.<br /><br />Over the years, we’ve continued to<a href="#"> run together</a> (<a href="#">Boston Marathon</a>, <a href="#">runDisney</a>, <a href="#">Credit Union Cherry Blossom Ten Mile Run</a>, <a href="#">Charlottesville Women's Four Miler</a>) and solo (<a href="#">Twins Run 50K</a>, <a href="#">Philadelphia Marathon</a>, <a href="#">Blue Cross Broad Street Run</a>, <a href="#">Charlottesville Track Club</a>, <a href="#">Charlottesville Speedsters</a>, <a href="#">Charlottesville Ten Miler</a>, <a href="#">Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon</a>, <a href="#">The San Francisco Marathon</a>, <a href="#">Marine Corps Marathon</a>) to raise awareness and funds for childhood cancer research. <br /><br />As of today, we’ve raised over $7,000 in memory of Michael and our Irish grandmother, Aileen, affectionately known as GG, who died suddenly from cancer on July 16, 2012. <br /><br />We’re grateful for your support and generous donations over the past 10 years.<br /><br />If you can, please consider <a href="https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/2813274">donating $10 to Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation.</a>.<br /><br /> Thank you.<br /><br /> <img alt="☘️" height="16" referrerpolicy="origin-when-cross-origin" src="https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t14/1/16/2618.png" style="background: 0px 0px rgb(255, 255, 255); border: 0px; color: #222222; font-family: "source sans pro", sans-serif; font-size: 16.2679px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: left;" width="16" /></div><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhziUCaYQL2OTdzigJp6HegZDpvC_orPVhhdZVuVf9F3f3hby5KH5XH9zeh1k25-5lxf5YcYmGmJOJ8sDOgBfWMNUZoKVYMOAabSbJL5jLELtekXnOYNGWTtVObA2Jstt_UrHFMko0Pa3z780a93NSx3L2-qvYxTnyvsZhO0aSNjNVr70wni77I6SGI/s689/Chicago.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="689" data-original-width="514" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhziUCaYQL2OTdzigJp6HegZDpvC_orPVhhdZVuVf9F3f3hby5KH5XH9zeh1k25-5lxf5YcYmGmJOJ8sDOgBfWMNUZoKVYMOAabSbJL5jLELtekXnOYNGWTtVObA2Jstt_UrHFMko0Pa3z780a93NSx3L2-qvYxTnyvsZhO0aSNjNVr70wni77I6SGI/s320/Chicago.jpeg" width="239" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-28992053968493102892022-07-02T03:54:00.004-04:002023-01-06T09:57:45.016-05:00Residential Treatment for Anorexia Nervosa by Malinda Ann Hill<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEha6A1DBOz6mxnKTnrGVj0zhRJsd2xYzdC1fJAdWnMqNT7EpfQD6OLSiFZpGMxz_M3Oil-ViCYhCpze7FOGUjyVn_-Ht8tLeOxeTr27Z5ejLxPKJfmnDK_EXG6p9QjIf-mhYff9CT4RsGXzos1pEFvzTGrfW8nC5zW-peHHY24v_dnllzGGXDlwhj-4/s960/242748888_10223137349596748_242271163336840956_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="960" height="267" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEha6A1DBOz6mxnKTnrGVj0zhRJsd2xYzdC1fJAdWnMqNT7EpfQD6OLSiFZpGMxz_M3Oil-ViCYhCpze7FOGUjyVn_-Ht8tLeOxeTr27Z5ejLxPKJfmnDK_EXG6p9QjIf-mhYff9CT4RsGXzos1pEFvzTGrfW8nC5zW-peHHY24v_dnllzGGXDlwhj-4/w400-h267/242748888_10223137349596748_242271163336840956_n.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div><br /></div>Medicaid approved a single case agreement for residential treatment for at least 2 weeks and I will be admitted on Tuesday, July 5, 2022. I am extremely grateful for this opportunity to receive the help I need to recover from anorexia nervosa, depression, anxiety and PTSD. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. Thank you so very much for your support.<div><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/TwinsRUNinOurFamily?__tn__=-]K*F">Malinda Ann Hill</a><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/WishToNourish?__tn__=-]K*F">Wish to Nourish</a><br /><a href="https://www.facebook.com/GriefVisible?__tn__=-]K*F">Making Grief Visible</a></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-69922595880519582272022-06-24T03:57:00.005-04:002023-01-06T09:47:46.465-05:00Struggling Greatly with Anorexia Nervosa by Malinda Ann Hill<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzOdyvsWOIp3nPR_YUKTdvjJJffPVJMIHZcEuZ5o9_2mWeddkeDz89HnJaZPSjpclT7sIUeSjzcLVvbaXwvQQlwc8UCueDj6jBH0B150oyl-fT1tc-l87KgbWlStVTmyPFfXEIBpT1Bq2ftFrn8WRjPsfsFGGHnrhYZK1QRsrMrATU_sKscRAUupE5/s960/ANAD%20Poem.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="792" data-original-width="960" height="330" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzOdyvsWOIp3nPR_YUKTdvjJJffPVJMIHZcEuZ5o9_2mWeddkeDz89HnJaZPSjpclT7sIUeSjzcLVvbaXwvQQlwc8UCueDj6jBH0B150oyl-fT1tc-l87KgbWlStVTmyPFfXEIBpT1Bq2ftFrn8WRjPsfsFGGHnrhYZK1QRsrMrATU_sKscRAUupE5/w400-h330/ANAD%20Poem.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />I am so very grateful for the generous donations, kind words, and thoughtful actions I have received since I asked for help and entered treatment for anorexia nervosa, depression, anxiety and PTSD. The support from people who truly care has sustained me and offered me hope when I felt hopeless and worthless. <div><br /></div><div>It is difficult to admit that I am still struggling mentally, emotionally and physically - especially with anorexia nervosa. I am so sorry for the pain this insidious illness continues to cause my friends and family - especially my identical twin, Leah.</div><div><br />Leah offered me a couch to crash on in her basement when I lost my apartment, my job and my health insurance. Thank you, Leah, for your support when I needed it the most.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><div>Posted by Leah on 6/21/21: </div><div><br /></div><div>“I wrote this poem in 1985 after having struggled with anorexia nervosa beginning at 11 years old. My twin is still actively battling this deadly disease. I love you, Malinda Ann Hill. ❤️”<br /><br />Reality by Leah Ann Hill<br /><br />"Why do you do this? Do this to our family? to yourself? Why don't you just eat? Just one bite. Please. Please, just one bite. I love you honey. Just eat. Please!"<br /><br />There's no response,<br /><br />The body stiffens<br /><br />No feelings show through the gaunt,<br /><br />lifeless face,<br /><br />Having none means superiority.<br /><br />But that's a lie,<br /><br />You're scared, alone,<br /><br />This urge, this obsession has taken over your life; has cut all ties from friends, family; has destroyed your life.<br /><br />You are hungry, but not just for food,<br /><br />You cry for attention, yearn for their approval,<br /><br />They can't see it though, why can't they tell?<br /><br />"If you eat this I'll get you anything, anything you want."<br /><br />But you don't want anything (anything but your freedom, their love),<br /><br />You've worked too hard for this,<br /><br />You can't give it up, you won't.<br /><br />They can't see it though, why can't they tell?<br /><br />Why can't you?<br /><br /><br />Published in the National Anorexic Aid Society, Inc. Newsletter (April - June 1985)<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-6744818227054612752022-05-18T05:09:00.005-04:002022-05-18T05:31:00.770-04:00Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) Virtual Advocacy Day on May 17, 2022 - Malinda Ann Hill Shares Her Story on Capitol Hill<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiU3C0DNtSzICQqI9xI2aY1TS83gQKyhjNJV3pAsKKZNT3OeMSaMoyEGlO9GxSjh_6MXQhHYwe7Zu2VgaUmFzobfnhlZJ_3eAU12BK4RKUEH7DitdwOUyEwZ81VxzLXB0WSy1xuaO8R5-ZffdLQbV3CLP7MsNZGAG3ce6GGxCdgtAwbx5UTq4LPePnu/s628/EDC%20Advocacy%20Day.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="352" data-original-width="628" height="179" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiU3C0DNtSzICQqI9xI2aY1TS83gQKyhjNJV3pAsKKZNT3OeMSaMoyEGlO9GxSjh_6MXQhHYwe7Zu2VgaUmFzobfnhlZJ_3eAU12BK4RKUEH7DitdwOUyEwZ81VxzLXB0WSy1xuaO8R5-ZffdLQbV3CLP7MsNZGAG3ce6GGxCdgtAwbx5UTq4LPePnu/s320/EDC%20Advocacy%20Day.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><p>Today is our 51st birthday and I am grateful I had the opportunity to attend Eating Disorders Coalition (<a href="https://twitter.com/EDCoalition">@EDCoalition</a>) Virtual Advocacy Day (<a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/EDCHillDay?src=hashtag_click">#EDCHillDay</a>) on Tuesday, May 17. I joined advocates from across the country who shared our experiences with eating disorders and asked Congress to support important legislation. Here is my story that I shared on Capitol Hill yesterday. For more information on how you can help, visit: <a href="https://t.co/n290k216RL">http://eatingdisorderscoalition.org</a>.</p><p><br /></p><p>My name is Malinda Ann Hill and I recently moved to Charlottesville, VA after living in Philadelphia for over 20 years.</p><p>My identical twin was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa when we were only 11 years old. Tomorrow, we turn 51. Forty years ago, eating disorders in children were extremely rare and education of health care providers was nonexistent. Our pediatrician ordered every test imaginable because he had no training on eating disorders and did not recognize that my twin’s drastic weight loss was intentional. Fortunately, my twin recovered.</p><p>Unfortunately, my battle with anorexia nervosa began when we were 15 and my struggle continues today. Over the past 35 years, there were times when I was severely ill and unable to function. There were also times when I was able to manage my symptoms, allowing me to earn my masters’ degree in marital and family therapy with a specialization in art therapy, pursue a meaningful career as bereavement coordinator at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, raise my daughter on my own, and run marathons with my twin to support Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation for Childhood Cancer. </p><p>Since I was unable to access the treatment I needed in my late teens and early twenties, I suffered the devastating mental and physical consequences as a result of surviving decades with an eating disorder. Shortly after the pandemic began in 2020, my eating disorder spiraled out of control. My mental and physical health rapidly declined to the point that I was unable to work and care for my daughter. I knew that I desperately needed help and I had to seek treatment as soon as possible. I feared the pandemic would trigger a mental health crisis and I was correct.</p><p>After taking 3 months of medical leave of absence from work to participate in a virtual partial hospitalization program, I had to return to work too soon because I could not afford to continue treatment even with health insurance. I did my best to manage my debilitating symptoms on my own but after several months my mental and physical health rapidly deteriorated again so I was forced to take another medical leave of absence from work. Several months after returning to treatment, I was notified that the hospital could no longer hold my position while I was on medical leave so I lost my job of nearly 20 years. Subsequently, I lost my health insurance and access to the in-person partial hospitalization program I was attending because it wouldn’t accept Medicaid.</p><p>Over the past 6 months, it has been impossible to access the level of eating disorder treatment I need through Medicaid. I have been able to seek help through multiple medical providers because I have been suffering severe physical consequences as a result of my eating disorder. I am grateful to have a team of medical providers who are compassionate, knowledgeable and aware of the complex mental and physical consequences of eating disorders.</p><p>Last year, I shared my story for the first time during EDC Virtual Advocacy Day. Although it was difficult for me to admit how much I was struggling, I felt empowered and hopeful after joining other advocates. With all the obstacles I have encountered over the past year, there have been far too many days when I have lost all hope and fear that I will be one of too many who will continue to suffer or die as a result of an eating disorder. Even on my darkest days, I want to do all I can to help others who are at risk or suffering like me. I am grateful for every opportunity to share my story to raise awareness and support.</p><p>I believe legislation to support education, research, prevention and early intervention is crucial so children, teens and adults will not have to suffer for decades like I have or die as a result of their eating disorders like far too many have. Please co-sponsor and support the Anna Westin Legacy Act and the Kids Online Safety Act so all children and adults suffering or those at-risk for eating disorders have access to the care and understanding they deserve. </p><br /><br />TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-42359258008461638112022-05-05T14:25:00.008-04:002022-05-13T01:54:35.460-04:00Support Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) Virtual Advocacy Day on May 17, 2022<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7_BJry4S9ZzNnC17zvCETqNP5MEN2SfuutsaRcY6B6z2TBpdecTgr_a8-GiKojZc1PF30UQS4BVogxQPSnpeKvMaLxzSbmTy-BpJCN39xH1b3c3dNfnv4nf50KDcjsZ4Euq9eOsMBvhe-of7kBk2G9CXVZmz_Z3J2_uTjjeJJxIkxZ6YsBFguiV5B/s630/FR-ahFHXsAAi4aF.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="354" data-original-width="630" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7_BJry4S9ZzNnC17zvCETqNP5MEN2SfuutsaRcY6B6z2TBpdecTgr_a8-GiKojZc1PF30UQS4BVogxQPSnpeKvMaLxzSbmTy-BpJCN39xH1b3c3dNfnv4nf50KDcjsZ4Euq9eOsMBvhe-of7kBk2G9CXVZmz_Z3J2_uTjjeJJxIkxZ6YsBFguiV5B/w400-h225/FR-ahFHXsAAi4aF.jpeg" width="400" /></a></div><p>I am grateful for the opportunity to be an Advocate with Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC).</p>EDC brings advocates together once a year for national Advocacy Days to educate Members of Congress and push for important policy goals.<br /><br />I will share my story on Capitol Hill on EDC Virtual Advocacy Day on May 17th so I can influence federal policy and make a difference in the lives of those affected by eating disorders.<br /><br />You can also get involved and show your support by sharing information on your social media accounts and contacting your Members of Congress. <div><br /></div><div>Sign up to receive a social media tool kit here: <a href="http://bit.ly/3KuXUm6">http://bit.ly/3KuXUm6</a><br /><br />Thank you for your support!<br />Malinda Ann Hill</div><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-10496604245514610082022-03-22T06:09:00.001-04:002022-03-22T06:09:24.122-04:00C-VILLE-athon <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3qQJcKsX9XP3uYG1rCLmlUURRAjP9iR4xtPx-k7gVbIyIe-q99txa2T195OpaMlFaLRHFfo0-hLmUpkVYBora40FphbrfG-hte2oC6nMTPZe9MnaDoIyfzvCWFerPEXPLufLwwl722yIL2133KsVEET5fqVL-H-YmmwwMAwhrAN1BPCIm7CHEjq17/s640/48377772-2204339909805982-2003802943110774784-n_orig.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3qQJcKsX9XP3uYG1rCLmlUURRAjP9iR4xtPx-k7gVbIyIe-q99txa2T195OpaMlFaLRHFfo0-hLmUpkVYBora40FphbrfG-hte2oC6nMTPZe9MnaDoIyfzvCWFerPEXPLufLwwl722yIL2133KsVEET5fqVL-H-YmmwwMAwhrAN1BPCIm7CHEjq17/s320/48377772-2204339909805982-2003802943110774784-n_orig.jpg" /></a><br /><br />Thank you, <a href="https://www.cvilleathon.org/leah-connor---c-ville-athon-streakers.html">Leah Connor</a>, for managing everything for the<a href="https://www.blogger.com/#"> C-VILLE-athon</a> from 2015-2020. <br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#"><img src="https://www.cvilleathon.org/uploads/4/4/7/0/44702685/img-1835-5x7_orig.jpg" /></a><br /><br />LEAH CONNOR | <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">C-VILLE-athon Streakers</a><br /><br />I'm very proud of my volunteer work promoting the C-VILLE-athon from 2015-2020. I created <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">logos</a> for the finisher shirts as well as managed all registrations, checklists, website, digital marketing, and social media. Learn more about my nonprofit work at <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">twinsrun.com</a> and <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">agoodgroup.com</a>. THANK YOU!<br /><br />My favorite race in the C-VILLE-athon is the <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">Montalto Challenge</a>. It's the only race that I've completed every year since it started! My second favorite event is the <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">All-Comers Summer Track Meets</a>. Not only is it the oldest running event in Charlottesville (started in 1975), it's also the cheapest! You can run two events that count in the C-VILLE-athon (The Mile and the 5K or 2 Miler) for just $2 (only $1 if you're a <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">CTC member</a>).<br /><br />Supporting local non-profit organizations in the community is one of the main reasons I love racing. When Mark Lorenzoni approached me with the idea for the C-VILLE-athon I was excited to help promote the challenge because I knew it would help encourage runners to register for races they might never have participated in before.<br /><br />I've always been obsessed with racing because it's the fun way to get in some speed work! Having a checklist to monitor my progress throughout the year has been fun and motivating. I might not be setting any PRs anymore, but I like to challenge myself to get out there and compete. In 2015, I ran 98 miles in C-VILLE-athon races, in 2016 I completed 82 miles. In 2017 I was injured and couldn't run or race for 2 months, but I still managed to log 62 miles. Phew! :) I ran 21 different events in 2018, but I still have a few races I've never entered that I need to add to my checklist in 2019. My goal is to run every race in the C-VILLE-athon at least once! I wish my <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">identical twin sister</a> could make it from Philly to Cville to complete the C-VILLE-athon too, but I always bring my "flat twin" with me to the races!<br /><br />Obsessive running and racing data can be found on my <a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">website</a>!<br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/7228166098740431431/4511651807230306749#">agoodgroup.com</a><br /><br /><br />TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-34176172032963534402022-03-22T04:14:00.002-04:002022-03-24T04:44:28.270-04:00 The Haven 8K Run for Home by Leah Connor<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvXHdKFDmBQ-YFfQe0w0mbufPvuVilhGZV7OaEFM6kmbjAv3xCXtjbojfhlRcPaw8YWEqvPW6x8tylB39yCrY-fLJtvlWljKiG97Ox0eJNjl_bc1jq89OLUKFjiPzoH0jy2aWKWbrGnNZ27MOzzkUQ3Y_qU84f1SysmHjAJTP39M0mgyzVoowqhBTZ/s800/53694bdb-991c-457b-8428-4ad9b0e2ab3f_orig%20(1).jpeg"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvXHdKFDmBQ-YFfQe0w0mbufPvuVilhGZV7OaEFM6kmbjAv3xCXtjbojfhlRcPaw8YWEqvPW6x8tylB39yCrY-fLJtvlWljKiG97Ox0eJNjl_bc1jq89OLUKFjiPzoH0jy2aWKWbrGnNZ27MOzzkUQ3Y_qU84f1SysmHjAJTP39M0mgyzVoowqhBTZ/w400-h400/53694bdb-991c-457b-8428-4ad9b0e2ab3f_orig%20(1).jpeg" width="400" /></a><br /><br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">The Haven 8K Run for Home</a><br />3/20/2022<br /><br />I felt like there was a lot of <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">symbolism in my experience </a>running <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">The Haven</a> 8K Run for Home on Saturday, March 19. I experienced compliments and rejection, recognition and invisibility, joy and sorrow, hope and despair. Pretty intense stuff for a fun run and my first “race” of 2022.<br /><br />I was fortunate to receive a ride to the race with my friend and frequent <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">trivia teammate</a>, Hernan. He was a few minutes early (which I love), but it put me in a panicked scramble to get myself out the door so I forgot my race bib. #RookieMistake<br /><br />I realized I didn’t have my bib as soon as I got out of his car. I didn’t want to be "that person" who has to admit they messed up and then beg for a new number at the registration table, but there I was in that exact situation.<br /><br />I expected this race was going to be challenging because my running pace has slowed significantly and I anticipated seeing people in the running community for the first time in 6 months. Having to start the day by asking for a new bib was not exactly what I had planned in terms of just "laying low."<br /><br />Luckily, Audrey Lorenzoni Sackson was at the registration table and was more than willing to help me with a new bib. When I saw her husband, Stewart, I asked them how married life was going. I remembered the best recommendation I ever got from a couples therapist was to read <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It</a>. I recently gave that book as a wedding present to a close friend because I found it to be so useful and insightful.<br /><br />I ran a couple miles before the race and smiled every time I saw a <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Ten Miler </a>or other <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">race shirt that I designed</a>. It's the little things that lift my spirits and I felt pure joy when I saw the designs I created being worn by my fellow runners. I greatly appreciate this continued connection with our local running community.<br /><br /><br /><img height="300" src="https://www.agoodgroup.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/bbece6ea-8ea4-48b8-833c-10652702aa5e_orig.jpeg" width="400" /><br /><br /><br /><br />My<a href="https://www.blogger.com/#"> identical twin sister, Malinda Ann, </a>came with us to cheer the runners (and entertain the spectators) as an inflatable T-Rex. I was excited to snap a few photos of her proudly displaying her sign, "You'll be Dino-SORE tomorrow!!" and her "<a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">TWINS RUN in our family" tote bag</a>. <br /><br />I started the race off slowly and tried not to pressure myself or worry about my performance. Lately, I’ve been running 12-14 minute miles so my only goal was to run faster than that. It felt good to see familiar faces along the course, to hear personal shout outs (“Go Leah!”) and to receive compliments on my sparkly running skirt (a version of the asexual flag in honor of my daughter). My playlist (<a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">RUN FOR HOME PLAYLIST</a>) kept me going and I even passed 5 or so people in the second half of the race which is always great for a boost of confidence. As I approached the finish line, I saw my twin cheering and it made me smile.<br /><br />Mark Lorenzoni called my name as I crossed the finish line and I kept running because it has been very difficult since he walked away from me. I miss his presence in my life and I am sad <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">I had to end my volunteer work with the Charlottesville Track Club</a>. <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Even though the transition has not been easy</a>, I am grateful for the <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">opportunities I had to help </a>him with the Charlottesville Track Club for more than 13 years and Ragged Mountain Running Shop for over 6 years. While I know it can be uncomfortable, difficult or painful when friendships, partnerships or collaborations end, I understand and accept that some relationships cannot continue for reasons beyond my control. <br /><br />I was lucky to see my friend, Marti, after the race and I got a great photo of her standing beside my twin, the T-Rex. I’ve always appreciated Marti's warmth, compassion, and willingness to lend a hand, especially with the <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon.</a> I thanked her for all she’s done and for being the light when I’ve seen a lot of darkness. I gave her a huge hug and went to get a mocha with extra chocolate and whipped cream at Mudhouse.<br /><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.agoodgroup.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/80d000f6-0c8e-4ba0-9b4c-d1473c62fa89_orig.jpeg" width="300" /><br /><br />After the race, I checked the results and saw that I wasn’t listed. At first, I thought it was a blessing in disguise because my time was so much slower than my performance two years ago, the last time the race was in-person. However, I did use the online form to report the issue because I am not ashamed of my time. I’m actually proud of myself for still getting out there when I know I’m not in my best shape and nowhere near my PRs from 2012. Although I’m no longer competitive, I’m still showing up because running has been and continues to be such an important part of my life. I can find happiness and connection in being a part of the communal race experience even when I know I won’t take home an award. I always want to appreciate the joy of running and to support important causes in my community.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">The Ten Miler</a> is next week. It’ll most certainly be my slowest time ever on the course and I’m looking forward to enjoying every minute I have on the streets of Charlottesville with other runners and community members.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">RUN FOR HOME PLAYLIST</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/#"><img height="266" src="https://www.agoodgroup.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/2eb35159-08fb-46ef-bf8a-837c3626d735_orig.jpeg" width="400" /></a><br /><br /><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.agoodgroup.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/5930d8bb-4db6-45d4-beaa-b6ce498da9d8_orig.jpeg" width="400" /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-24287488979465705162022-03-17T05:55:00.004-04:002022-03-17T05:56:15.714-04:00St. Patrick's Day 2022 - Running Together in Memory of Michael & GG<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgpatgujiBT-mOCQ8O_hdgrjv27LVNs7cjS1NGVw7LnjOmIFS_VtrflQ4Kd3OUxd_5My75GWA2i4sziFkJ_Yk3gKeEfhXkk5s9LoeA8F28cddKTAJ-Wew8-TlYPAY35JA_e7tYYycA2bLNk_pJCciUWFIEOrH2Pzh8Fvh_YboHWQuNBQPTo8YdpMnzr=s320" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="320" data-original-width="320" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgpatgujiBT-mOCQ8O_hdgrjv27LVNs7cjS1NGVw7LnjOmIFS_VtrflQ4Kd3OUxd_5My75GWA2i4sziFkJ_Yk3gKeEfhXkk5s9LoeA8F28cddKTAJ-Wew8-TlYPAY35JA_e7tYYycA2bLNk_pJCciUWFIEOrH2Pzh8Fvh_YboHWQuNBQPTo8YdpMnzr" width="320" /></a></div><div><br />Michael, Leah's Irish brother-in-law, died from relapsed childhood leukemia on St. Patrick’s Day 2003. </div><div><br /></div><div>Ten years ago today, <a href="https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/1121983">Leah and Malinda Ann joined Team Lemon </a>so we could run our first Bank of America Chicago Marathon together in his memory to support Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation. </div><div><br /></div><div>Over the years, we’ve continued to run together (Boston Marathon, runDisney, Credit Union Cherry Blossom Ten Mile Run, Charlottesville Women's Four Miler) and solo (Twins Run 50K, Philadelphia Marathon, Blue Cross Broad Street Run, Charlottesville Track Club, Charlottesville Speedsters, Charlottesville Ten Miler, Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon, The San Francisco Marathon, Marine Corps Marathon) to raise awareness and funds for childhood cancer research. </div><div><br /></div><div>As of today, we’ve raised over $7,000 in memory of Michael and our Irish grandmother, Aileen, affectionately known as GG. </div><div><br /></div><div>We’re extremely grateful for your ongoing support and generous donations over the years. </div><div><br /></div><div>Thank you. ☘️</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/1121983">https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/1121983</a></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-66717637123713035542022-03-16T04:22:00.002-04:002022-05-13T01:55:51.179-04:00Revolutionary Love - An Update from Malinda Ann HIll<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj4ZrZybHVutL7VB-3OEv70R7Z_-3BlhT9Mnvu99IR9ZfmvsPO71CUNn0b08tMHRhNIBE0insSJj3miXZKSr6PDXWywRE3Tf1pQ2faLiQkfh-CrXdWrBANQa56oszBHLlp6sRZKRjQBCf2j903Uing1nFq_AXnG09Wws1Y7f5jydZS-u_FTc26ZlRBU=s960" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="960" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj4ZrZybHVutL7VB-3OEv70R7Z_-3BlhT9Mnvu99IR9ZfmvsPO71CUNn0b08tMHRhNIBE0insSJj3miXZKSr6PDXWywRE3Tf1pQ2faLiQkfh-CrXdWrBANQa56oszBHLlp6sRZKRjQBCf2j903Uing1nFq_AXnG09Wws1Y7f5jydZS-u_FTc26ZlRBU=s320" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div>Over the past two years, it has been difficult for me to share my experience when I feel unwell and hopeless. I continue to share my experience to raise awareness and encourage compassion for those suffering with mental illness.</div><div><br /></div><div>On March 23, 2020, I entered treatment for an eating disorder, depression, anxiety and PTSD exacerbated by the pandemic and the stalking I experienced for over 11 years.</div><div><br /></div><div>On June 30, 2020, I left treatment too soon because I couldn’t afford to continue.</div><div><br /></div><div>On March 15, 2021, I re-entered treatment for an eating disorder, depression, anxiety and PTSD exacerbated by another stalking incident.</div><div><br /></div><div>On October 1, 2021, I lost my job of nearly 20 years because the organization could no longer hold my position while I was on medical leave.</div><div><br /></div><div>On March 15, 2022, I remain heartbroken that I can't return to the position that was meaningful to me.</div><div><br /></div><div>While this has been a challenging year of treatment and transitions, I am grateful for the support I've received and continue to receive from family, friends, and people who care.</div><div><br /></div><div>Thank you to Ani DiFranco for "Revolutionary Love" - a song I listen to whenever I need inspiration to continue on my road of recovery.</div><div><br /></div><div>Revolutionary Love</div><div></div><div>I will tend my anger</div><div>I will tend my grief</div><div>I will achieve safety</div><div>I will find relief</div><div>I'll show myself mercy</div><div>I'll show myself respect</div><div>Yes, and I'll decide when I'm ready</div><div>To forgive but not forget</div><div><br /></div><div>And I will ask you, I'll ask you questions</div><div>And I will try, try to understand</div><div>And if you give me your story</div><div>I will hold it in my hands</div><div><br /></div><div>Yeah, I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love</div><div><br /></div><div>(Revolution)</div><div>(Revolution)</div><div>(Revolution)</div><div><br /></div><div>And even if you hurt me</div><div>I will not shut down</div><div>No, you can't make me hate you</div><div>And carry that hate around</div><div>Yeah, I will see no stranger</div><div>Only parts of myself I don't yet know</div><div>Yes, and I'll see right through evil</div><div>To a wound, too scared to show</div><div><br /></div><div>Yeah, I have the power to stay open</div><div>Oh, I have the power to be</div><div>The one that I've been waiting for</div><div>The one who sets me free</div><div><br /></div><div>Yeah, I can bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I can bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I can bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love</div><div><br /></div><div>(Revolution)</div><div>(Revolution)</div><div>(Revolution)</div><div><br /></div><div>Oh, well I will tend my anger</div><div>Yes, I will tend my grief</div><div>I will achieve safety</div><div>Yeah, I will find relief</div><div>Yeah, I'll show myself mercy</div><div>I will show myself respect</div><div>Yes, and I'll decide when I'm ready</div><div>To forgive but not forget</div><div><br /></div><div>And I'll ask you, ask you questions</div><div>And I will try, try to understand</div><div>And if you give me your story</div><div>I will hold it in my hands</div><div><br /></div><div>And I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>Yes, I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love</div><div><br /></div><div>Yes, I could bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I will bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>I can bring the love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love (the love, the love)</div><div>The revolutionary love</div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/uJwHD6TZ4gw" width="320" youtube-src-id="uJwHD6TZ4gw"></iframe></div><br /><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-80879300952991585082022-03-12T05:42:00.005-05:002022-03-12T07:52:03.128-05:00TWINS RUN UPDATE ⏰ by leah connor<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh2ZY0-2tbXw4cdRNhBHRafuKfCGfqhw7ic4SQfWgqfMc1kfG7fC-Z_oPWw0FVl6jIT4TZnheY7fyp6V6VHWQjqL64wpLuPS0JVMRP9m0purZp3sfC3YnJ4-nswYa0JlBINWsxeljrNc_hsZ5vywB6-j8_xyDWhTmJVS9uJvFU7zQ3c7COPqz_OBZ9n=s614" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><b><img border="0" data-original-height="614" data-original-width="614" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh2ZY0-2tbXw4cdRNhBHRafuKfCGfqhw7ic4SQfWgqfMc1kfG7fC-Z_oPWw0FVl6jIT4TZnheY7fyp6V6VHWQjqL64wpLuPS0JVMRP9m0purZp3sfC3YnJ4-nswYa0JlBINWsxeljrNc_hsZ5vywB6-j8_xyDWhTmJVS9uJvFU7zQ3c7COPqz_OBZ9n=s320" width="320" /></b></a></div><b> </b><div>Thank you for helping me and my twin celebrate our 50th birthday last year with a <a href="https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/1121983">donation to Alex’s Lemonade Stand</a> and/or a selfie with <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/flattwinsrun50.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer">Flat Twins Run</a>.<div><br /></div><div>Our 50th year doesn’t end until May 18 and we’d love even more photos to share in our <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/flat-twin-gallery.html" rel="noopener noreferrer">#TwinsRun50 montage</a>. Take a selfie or, if you're camera shy, set up a photo in a place that's special to you or with your pet!</div><div><br /></div><div>A lot has changed in the past year and you can read about most of it on my <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog" rel="noopener noreferrer">blog</a>.</div><div><br /></div><div>* Ann (aka Malinda/Mindy) has been living with me for the past 6 months as she struggles with her <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/trapped-in-the-house-with-an-eating-disorder" rel="noopener noreferrer">eating disorder</a>.</div><div>* I’ve interviewed with 50 companies since I’ve turned 50 and am still trying to figure out what I want to be in my second act.</div><div>* My volunteer work with the Charlottesville Track Club ends with the Ten Miler on March 26.</div><div><br /></div><div>Two years ago I had my last normal day before COVID-19 changed everything. It hasn’t been easy for anyone. Please know that you have been in my thoughts and I’d love to hear from you about how you’re doing. If there’s anything I can do to support you, please ask. <p>Love and peace,</p><p>leah</p><p><a href="https://linkedin.com/company/twinsrun" rel="noopener noreferrer">linkedin.com/company/twinsrun</a></p><p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahannconnor/" rel="noopener noreferrer">linkedin.com/in/leahannconnor</a></p><p><a href="http://www.twitter.com/leahcville" rel="noopener noreferrer">twitter.com/leahcville</a></p><p><a href="http://www.facebook.com/runleahruncville" rel="noopener noreferrer">facebook.com/runleahruncville</a></p><p><a href="http://www.instagram.com/leahcville" rel="noopener noreferrer">instagram.com/leahcville</a></p><blockquote type="cite"><div dir="ltr"><div class="gmail_quote"><div dir="ltr"><div><div><i></i></div></div></div></div></div></blockquote><p><i>Visit my blog to learn more about what's been going on in my life!</i></p><p><a href="http://www.agoodgroup.com/blog" rel="noopener noreferrer">agoodgroup.com/blog</a></p><p><a href="http://www.twinsrun.com" rel="noopener noreferrer">twinsrun.com</a> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiTW34OM7zwDybTPmpwWlAmE0uGpb1jfiXhCiAEUQQT8adm4iKRY2VlW0o_5kBKWE8PxnEhEuAm_bEaAnGzu3k8dmPd0s1yi0ZuvA-brHlkILKHeTHjY9QOlylIygq5dAZP02HmWRr1DSg0if5jwQgi-ZOT0DmV_Ad2Es9awOi8NC80pKNFS1UaZc-z=s1640" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="550" data-original-width="1640" height="134" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiTW34OM7zwDybTPmpwWlAmE0uGpb1jfiXhCiAEUQQT8adm4iKRY2VlW0o_5kBKWE8PxnEhEuAm_bEaAnGzu3k8dmPd0s1yi0ZuvA-brHlkILKHeTHjY9QOlylIygq5dAZP02HmWRr1DSg0if5jwQgi-ZOT0DmV_Ad2Es9awOi8NC80pKNFS1UaZc-z=w400-h134" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-30788659354187826062022-01-11T04:23:00.003-05:002022-01-11T04:26:44.831-05:00ALIVE Notes - Hip Hop & Mental Health<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj2tYZ2Blc1DIKaf0zAXkLUzFbJa1e2F-rKtQg_MuF_6mGBuj0KvfQ1BU3yCt5DYoz7yFZOGc4pQmiPBZkUPQK8QuwW13lCfSOUPSKO3nSbhc8-DgCOh8iNZv8NhpxiNC6H3Vcn9GPDsa8LwG3yVzWvwj1VNnPw0aOBwKt5epjoPchAhOLnIrCU6Lbc=s800" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEj2tYZ2Blc1DIKaf0zAXkLUzFbJa1e2F-rKtQg_MuF_6mGBuj0KvfQ1BU3yCt5DYoz7yFZOGc4pQmiPBZkUPQK8QuwW13lCfSOUPSKO3nSbhc8-DgCOh8iNZv8NhpxiNC6H3Vcn9GPDsa8LwG3yVzWvwj1VNnPw0aOBwKt5epjoPchAhOLnIrCU6Lbc=s320" width="320" /></a></div>The power of music is both undeniable and scientifically proven. It can help us run faster, reduce pain, increase relaxation, and even save a life.<br /><br />In 2017, hip hop artist Logic released his powerful song “1-800-273-8255” about suicidal ideation, recovery, and the power of hope. The title comes from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and research recently published in the British Medical Journal indicates the popularity of the song could have saved as many as 245 lives with an increase in call volume to the hotline.<br /><br />There’s actually a name for the persuasive power of mass media in helping those considering suicide to choose not to complete the final act: the Papageno effect.<br /><br />Hip hop has a long history of tackling the difficult topic of mental health. In 1982, Grandmaster Flash and The Furious Five released “The Message” which vividly describes social injustice and the toll on Black lives:<br /><br />“It’s like a jungle sometimes it makes me wonder how I keep from going under”<br />“Don’t push me cause I’m close to the edge, I’m trying not to lose my head”<br /><br />Research has shown that the number of rap songs referencing mental health conditions doubled from 1998 to 2018. If more songs address the struggles with and treatment of mental disorders such as depression and PTSD, then it’s possible that the stigma and cultural resistance to seeking professional help will change over time.<br /><br />It’s vitally important for more musicians and artists to be honest about their own experiences with anxiety or suicidal thoughts so that we normalize discussions about mental illness and treatment.<br /><br />Unfortunately, multiple studies have shown an exponential growth in suicide rates and attempts amongst Black youth, especially girls and the age of those who are dying is getting even younger. One of the most startling statistics of racial disparities is that Black children under 13 die by suicide at almost twice the rate of white children under 13.<br /><br />We need to reduce the stigma attached to suffering from mental health conditions and the need to seek professional help with or without medication.<br /><br />Avoiding conversations about the realities of suicide doesn’t prevent it. We need the survivors of suicide (both those who have attempted and those who have lost a loved one due to mental illness) to speak up and help dispel the myths. We need to teach kids coping skills, where to go for help, and examples of overcoming a temporary mental condition or living productive lives with ongoing treatment of mental illness.<br /><br />Some people think suicide is selfish or that it’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Sadly, many of those who die by suicide have lifelong personality disorders or other chronic health conditions (mental or physical) that cannot be cured and require ongoing treatment and medication. It’s impossible to know whether or not someone’s life experiences that lead to suicidal thoughts are just temporary – they could include sexual abuse, poverty, PTSD, obesity, diabetes, or other struggles that are ongoing and possibly never-ending. Rather than judging those who are suffering, let’s support and listen to them.<br /><br />One tool I find that has helped me and my friends and relatives who suffer from mental illness is to find at least one song that makes you smile, gives you hope, or inspires you to dance and have that song ready for when you need to distract your mind from the negative thoughts - call it your Alive Note. Sometimes I’ll play just one song on repeat for hours if it makes me feel less alone or gets me moving. Exercise is another proven method for improving your physical and mental health so why not combine music with a walk or workout.<br /><br />Have a purpose for your playlists. I’ve organized songs to help pump me up or to calm me down, songs that help me laugh or make me cry … whatever I need to feel all the feelings.<br /><br />Some of my faves include “Ladies First” by Queen Latifah & Monie Love (to feel empowered) and “Just Look Up” by Ariana Grande & Kid Cudi (for a laugh!).<br /><div><br />What are your power songs? 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I first entered treatment at the beginning of the pandemic but returned to work too soon and suffered the consequences. Additionally, I’ve been sharing my experience with mental illness on social media in hopes that others will know they are not alone and it’s important to take care of your mental health.<br /><br />— Malinda Hill of Charlottesville, Virginia<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.pbs.org/newshour/arts/how-we-took-care-of-ourselves-in-2021">How we took care of ourselves in 2021</a></div><div>PBS NewsHour / CANVAS / Arts</div><div>Updated on Dec 13, 2021 11:11 AM EST — Published on Dec 9, 2021 6:02 PM EST</div><div><a href="https://www.pbs.org/newshour/arts/how-we-took-care-of-ourselves-in-2021">https://www.pbs.org/newshour/arts/how-we-took-care-of-ourselves-in-2021</a></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-44882556907642881692021-10-02T02:37:00.001-04:002021-10-02T02:38:13.094-04:00Hi Hello<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimost2oEUgmsVuZ8NlgW7TpTCaXxdNh96gWaboOXGrar36Hfd53BANStXl87jHUy81etBOAG6EmKpPq8WHB6AbmgwFQL00kuLTiK96IGPkIlOeGr4pWVADCCWhlyDVpjCR289SduhhLog/s827/FAmjSI_X0BEnIMH.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="465" data-original-width="827" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEimost2oEUgmsVuZ8NlgW7TpTCaXxdNh96gWaboOXGrar36Hfd53BANStXl87jHUy81etBOAG6EmKpPq8WHB6AbmgwFQL00kuLTiK96IGPkIlOeGr4pWVADCCWhlyDVpjCR289SduhhLog/s320/FAmjSI_X0BEnIMH.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><p>Nearly 3 years ago, I was grateful for the opportunity to meet <a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2018/11/moments-with-marr.html">Johnny Marr </a>before his show. We talked about our daughters, running & my lifelong work in bereavement. On October 1, I <a href="http://www.gofundme.com/malindaannhill">lost my job</a> of nearly 20 years. <a href="https://xpn.org/xpn-programs/your-first-cup">Grateful to wake up</a> to “Hi Hello” from <a href="https://twitter.com/djrobertdrake">DJ Robert Drake</a> before a difficult day of goodbyes.</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-86507231583195011232021-09-27T04:01:00.002-04:002021-09-27T04:23:37.553-04:00 Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon & Half Marathon<div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQa3eQ7nZ27P4OjB_eHI_5V0f4qchD4yGECf8Wk9xY1WxrpSCqb14_oRqBAPdlw_VptueM0aeY89AjJsB7-PfCJzxLkIJZFm3f0kyhP3L488SWK4rYUnJC_O0CvsrKBphKFw184J2bo6I/s250/baadaveme2015_orig.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQa3eQ7nZ27P4OjB_eHI_5V0f4qchD4yGECf8Wk9xY1WxrpSCqb14_oRqBAPdlw_VptueM0aeY89AjJsB7-PfCJzxLkIJZFm3f0kyhP3L488SWK4rYUnJC_O0CvsrKBphKFw184J2bo6I/s16000/baadaveme2015_orig.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon & Half Marathon</a><div>Leah Connor<br />9/20/2021<br /><br />This weekend I was thinking about everything I've done for the running community in Charlottesville. I've designed logos, medals, t-shirts, and so much more, but I am most proud of the creation of the <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon & Half Marathon</a>.<br /><br />I have long wanted to do a <a href="https://www.blogger.com/#">Barkleys Marathon style documentary</a> about my race because there are so many amazing stories from this event. From an unexpected DQ in 2014 to my identical twin sister winning in 2016 to holding 4 events during the COVID-19 pandemic.<br /><br />In 2015 I met Dave McGillivray, the Boston Marathon race director, and told him about the 50% BQ rate for our inaugural event.<br /><br /><br />Back then I never imagined what the race would become and all the lives that have been touched by it. It's rather humbling especially to have such a wonderful and dedicated group of volunteers including Ryan Looney, who's helped at each event and plans to finally run it in December. Go Ryan Go!<br /><br />I've set a goal of getting this "movie" project done by September 2024 which will be the 10th anniversary of the inaugural race and when the race certification expires. :) <br /><br />Then I counted up the past and upcoming races and realized that <a href="https://runsignup.com/Race/VA/Charlottesville/RivannaGreenbeltMarathon">December 5th</a> will be the 10th running of the Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon (and the 3rd edition for the half). Wow! <br /><br />So if you've run the race or registered for the events this fall, expect an email from me. I would love to interview you via Zoom for my documentary!<br /><br />Also, we could still use some <a href="https://rivannagreenbeltmarathon.weebly.com/volunteer.html">volunteers</a> for the fall races. 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src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlRNcsDXzGTNEgueR-Di4wcSGHQbjoZlG2s-tm3V97HTpxbH-R_G1yaxz_Hza7znyaiwFTtV7iuImhFl1kUkBzCCtc4Y_RxzASMELPnfXJxlIZ1YBnHV8gbqqr1TBzsWcs6yDagaTN1Vw/s320/242692942-10223307500690676-9060454220192380938-n_orig.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>A Peaceful Resolution</div><div>9/24/20210<br /></div><div><a href="http://www.twitter.com/leahcville">Leah Connor</a></div><div><a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/finding-peace">https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/finding-peace</a></div><div><br /></div>"To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your communication with people, places, and things that create all the noise in your life."<div><br /></div><div>Wed, Jul 29, 2020 at 4:38 PM <br />"I'll pass."<div><br />Mon, Sep 20, 2021 at 12:31 PM<br />"This needs to stop."<br /><br />Fourteen months ago when I was in the middle of a mental health crisis and had to take FMLA in an effort to get healthy and decide what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, I reached out to a therapist with whom I had a longstanding relationship. He replied right away and offered me an appointment in person. I struggled with what to do, but when I asked if we could meet virtually instead because of COVID-19, he responded with <a href="https://leahcville.wordpress.com/2021/05/24/ill-pass/">"I'll pass."</a><br /><br />At the time I thought that was the most hurtful and dismissive email I could ever receive from anyone. It took courage to reach out, ask for help, and put the necessary boundaries to protect my health in my request. When I was rejected from a professional who I had a 13 year relationship with I was devastated.<br /><br />It took me 40 days to write a reply and <a href="https://leahcville.wordpress.com/2021/05/24/ill-pass/">report him</a> to the Department of Health Professionals for the unethical behavior he exhibited over the course of my "treatment." Although I spoke with an investigator on September 17, 2020 regarding DHP Case #206870, I'm still waiting for resolution.<br /><br />I was on the phone with someone very important in my life when I got that email from the therapist. I burst into tears and could barely speak. He was so supportive and I will never forget that. It meant everything to me.<br /><br />For the past 6 months I've been struggling with another decision, whether or not to leave the Charlottesville Track Club, an organization that I have dedicated my passion and talents to for 13 years. I won't describe in detail what lead to my choice to step away, but the people closest to me know the story.<br /><br />I had already started separating myself from my CTC responsibilities and shared access to various resources I created before I received the "This has to stop." email, but to say I was gutted when I realized I no longer had the support from the person who was there for me when I was rejected from the therapist was heart-wrenching. Once again, I felt abandoned after sending an email with the subject line <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/help-wanted">HELP</a>. <br /><br />I've struggled so much over the past 14 months. I have experienced the huge loss of both friends and positions that I had clung to define my identity. Even though it was incredibly painful, I feel like I'm finding peace now because finally I have my best friend, my twin sister with me to share both the burdens and pleasures of life. <br /><br />Tonight we are going to our first concert together in Charlottesville. Ani DiFranco's music has been in my life since college and has gotten me through some very difficult times. I'm so grateful that I now own a home (with FRAN!) that I can welcome Malinda Ann into so we can be spinster twinsters together and create beautiful memories and art with Twins Run and A Good Group.</div><div> <br />Listen to my latest playlist created during this difficult transition: <a href="https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/funge-me/pl.u-ZmblrepF07zva9">FUNGE ME</a>. (Yes, I'm OBSESSED with HBO's Succession!)<br /><br /><br />Date: Wed, Sep 22, 2021 at 6:03 AM<br />Subject: My apologies and my thanks<br /><br />This will be my last message regarding my departure from the CTC, so please bear with me. <br /><br />First of all, I am encouraging all of you to attend the CTC Membership Meeting on Thursday at 7pm. <a href="https://virginia.zoom.us/j/92197003175?pwd=WjJaa0hvWDhyd0Y2SjRob0Nrbkx2Zz09">Join the CTC Board Elections Membership Meeting via Zoom</a><br /><br />Secondly, I give my eternal, sincere, and heartful thanks to everyone who has called, texted, or talked with me about my struggles in making the decision to step away from the CTC. I know it's the right decision and the healthy choice for me, but it's been unbearably hard .... I only wish I left CTC before I started this new position so I wouldn't put this amazing opportunity in jeopardy.<br /><br />Finally and most importantly, I am so very sorry for any discomfort, stress, or anxiety that this situation has caused anyone else. If any of you are feeling just 1/100th of the pain I am and it's because of my words or actions, I promise I will make it up to you. Please let me know how.<br /><br />I am an open book. My life is on <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/social-media.html">social media</a> and <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog">my website.</a> I am brutally and sometimes abrasively honest about my struggles with mental health, asking for help, and quitting. This has been the most difficult year of my entire life, but I have survived and I will continue to knowing I've made it this far.<br /><br />Thanks again,<br /><br />leah<br /><a href="http://agoodgroup.com/">agoodgroup.com</a></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-10578050670039016322021-06-15T21:40:00.010-04:002021-09-27T03:50:15.866-04:00Eating Disorder Treatment Fundraiser for Malinda Ann Hill<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjokKpyVqrNVEpykA-sPqSpoI9ARmMC2DpVTq9TILVwY_g6NjDcyM_EawQ_gsqdgcwSEt9qRgptB58X_sndJXQkUZ0vwCqGc3FZirXqdCqJ9C1tRroLeD4pO3UwNvBPNT7B3qoIRZzmC1E/s1500/1500x500.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="1500" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjokKpyVqrNVEpykA-sPqSpoI9ARmMC2DpVTq9TILVwY_g6NjDcyM_EawQ_gsqdgcwSEt9qRgptB58X_sndJXQkUZ0vwCqGc3FZirXqdCqJ9C1tRroLeD4pO3UwNvBPNT7B3qoIRZzmC1E/s320/1500x500.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>“<a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/06/can-i-believe-you.html" target="_blank">Malinda Ann Hill</a> decided to resume <a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/04/trapped-in-house-with-eating-disorder.html" target="_blank">treatment for her eating disorder</a> almost as soon as she shifted to working remotely in March 2020.” <br />Trapped in the House With an Eating Disorder<br />By Virginia Sole-Smith<br /><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/well/mind/covid-eating-disorders.html" target="_blank">The New York Times</a> <br />March 31, 2021<br /><br />(UPDATED on September 27, 2021)<div><br />It has been difficult to share my story and <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/trapped-in-the-house-with-an-eating-disorder" target="_blank">ask for the help I desperately need.</a> <br /><br />I have been struggling greatly with an <a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/06/can-i-believe-you.html" target="_blank">eating disorder relapse </a>that was exacerbated by the pandemic and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CK6RBNLnpoE/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link" target="_blank">the stalking I have experienced for over 11 years</a> .<br /><br />On March 23, 2020, I was admitted into a virtual partial hospital program (PHP) for eating disorders. <div><br /></div><div>On May 5, 2020, I transferred to another virtual PHP.</div><div><br /></div><div>On June 30, 2020, I was discharged from virtual PHP because I couldn’t afford to continue treatment and had to return to work.<br /><br /></div><div>On January 31, 2021, another stalking incident triggered another serious relapse.<br /><br />On March 15, 2021, I was re-admitted to the virtual PHP for eating disorders. </div><div><br /></div><div>On May 14, 2021, I was unexpectedly discharged from PHP because virtual program had to suddenly close. <br /><br />On May 17, 2021, I was admitted to virtual intensive outpatient program (IOP) for mental health while continuing to attend virtual peer support groups for my eating disorder.</div><div><br /></div><div>On July 20, 2021, I was suddenly discharged from IOP because the team recommended residential treatment.</div><div><br /></div><div>On August 17, 2021, I was admitted to a virtual PHP for eating disorders, anxiety, depression & PTSD.</div><div><br /></div><div>On August 31, 2021, I was notified that my employment status is terminated on October 1 and I will lose my health insurance on November 1.</div><div><br /></div><div>On September 27, 2021, I was admitted to an in-person PHP for eating disorders, anxiety, depression & PTSD.</div><div><br /></div><div>I continue to struggle emotionally, physically and financially.<br /><br />If you are able to help me continue treatment by donating $5, I’d greatly appreciate your support.<br /><br />If you cannot afford to donate, please keep me in your thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />Thank you.</div><div><br /></div><div>GoFundMe Fundraiser</div><div><a href="https://gofund.me/6d3611a6">https://gofund.me/6d3611a6</a></div></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-14986943983072502362021-06-08T17:43:00.004-04:002021-09-27T03:48:28.571-04:00Malinda Ann Hill's Eating Disorder Treatment Fund on GoFundMe<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoyW8yWzYYeq43QkXeyqhXak7leaQXG3rX_Dj4StxtT0yBa_j0d4OEvtVUi19H3y9idDJg0FtaiBXf8ocjuAxFNjrVI25YOa1dpb6UFFU0Vi_Ng_IMO32DUTYqRdyDpD-QaqDvaOKffxM/s1024/Wish+to+Nourish+Twitter.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="768" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoyW8yWzYYeq43QkXeyqhXak7leaQXG3rX_Dj4StxtT0yBa_j0d4OEvtVUi19H3y9idDJg0FtaiBXf8ocjuAxFNjrVI25YOa1dpb6UFFU0Vi_Ng_IMO32DUTYqRdyDpD-QaqDvaOKffxM/s320/Wish+to+Nourish+Twitter.jpg" /></a></div><br /><br />“<a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/06/can-i-believe-you.html">Malinda Ann Hill</a> decided to resume <a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/04/trapped-in-house-with-eating-disorder.html">treatment for her eating disorder </a>almost as soon as she shifted to working remotely in March 2020.” <br />Trapped in the House With an Eating Disorder<br />By Virginia Sole-Smith<br /><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/well/mind/covid-eating-disorders.html">The New York Times</a> <br />March 31, 2021<br /><br />It has not been easy for me to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/malindathemarathoner/posts/10222124721881688">share my story</a> and <a href="https://www.agoodgroup.com/blog/trapped-in-the-house-with-an-eating-disorder">ask for help</a> even when I know I desperately need help. <br /><br />I have been struggling greatly with an <a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/06/can-i-believe-you.html">eating disorder relapse </a>that was exacerbated by the pandemic and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CK6RBNLnpoE/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link">the stalking I have experienced for over 11 years</a> .<br /><br />I entered my first virtual partial hospital program on March 22, 2020 and was discharged from my second virtual partial hospital program on June 30, 2020 because I had to return to work.<br /><br />I am currently suffering from another serious relapse that worsened after another stalking incident on January 31, 2021. <br /><br />I entered my third virtual partial hospital program on March 15, 2021. Unfortunately, I was unexpectedly discharged from the program on on May 14, 2021 because the virtual program had to close suddenly and I was unable to attend the program in person. <br /><br />I entered my first virtual intensive outpatient program on May 17, 2021 while I continue to attend virtual peer support groups. <br /><br />I am waiting to receive assessments with the only other two eating disorder programs that are in-network with my insurance.<br /><br />I am currently on my second medical leave of absence from work so I am struggling financially, emotionally and physically.<br /><br />On July 1, I must pay $3,800 to continue treatment since my coverage starts over with a new medical plan administrator.<br /><br />If you can donate $5 to fund my continued treatment, I'd greatly appreciate your financial assistance.<br /><br />If you cannot afford to donate, please keep me in your thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />Thank you.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.facebook.com/malindathemarathoner">Malinda Ann Hill</a> <br /><a href="http://www.twinsruninourfamily.com/2021/06/can-i-believe-you.html">June 1, 2021</a>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-28139039630481001142021-06-03T00:25:00.013-04:002021-06-07T17:58:51.569-04:00Can I Believe You?<br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR4MdFH4xhhVLl9alljHSDeyLCzh5XydUYm_ebXIFC98r7QMeCILKS0XuKjHdULGUeF98cduWqnUI19FdTJx3S2PdD_8ebzPJUxTAS1nbIv2TyoeBqAp10ZzYnsDIDHtiJ0vSERPkjCh4/s770/194024451_10222519877640335_389538447720096282_n.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR4MdFH4xhhVLl9alljHSDeyLCzh5XydUYm_ebXIFC98r7QMeCILKS0XuKjHdULGUeF98cduWqnUI19FdTJx3S2PdD_8ebzPJUxTAS1nbIv2TyoeBqAp10ZzYnsDIDHtiJ0vSERPkjCh4/s320/194024451_10222519877640335_389538447720096282_n.jpg" /></a></div><div>Devastated by the sudden death of someone who helped me on my journey towards recovery.</div><div><br /></div><div>Thanks to each person I’ve encountered on my path who has made such an impact on my life.</div><div><br /></div><div>Grateful for every moment of connection or inspiration, no matter how brief or profound. </div><div><br /></div><div>The pain I feel when the connection ends shows me how much I still care.</div><div><br />Thinking of everyone grieving this tremendous loss.<div><br /></div><div><div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE-72UE7-8x2GjqPL-g1ztjC3X-3oRsn8A762v0KON6qq7i_Pqr_7S8bZcdy0f2N9s5xPjXLtbAkBb7LN8gPC9HwbRRO4NMEYxUZZPxT2_NXsHLKRYWc6oZL1T5fqW2bxLk_BkPuma1Vg/s1024/Wish+to+Nourish+Twitter.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="768" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE-72UE7-8x2GjqPL-g1ztjC3X-3oRsn8A762v0KON6qq7i_Pqr_7S8bZcdy0f2N9s5xPjXLtbAkBb7LN8gPC9HwbRRO4NMEYxUZZPxT2_NXsHLKRYWc6oZL1T5fqW2bxLk_BkPuma1Vg/s320/Wish+to+Nourish+Twitter.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CPOMnuODxwd/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link">Self Portrait by Malinda Ann Hill</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br />My journey of recovery from as eating disorder relapse as of June 7, 2021.</div><div><br /></div><div>Before the pandemic, I participated in the <a href="https://johncruice.com/2020/07/02/portraits-of-health-2020-the-stories/">Portraits of Health Project by John Cruice Photography</a>.<div><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhczamcVA9rxb8QPajVZf_IVg7lFYk0iAMcRb__Vy6dFuoJmVzW_DjneZv5ZAmuajdvTrWoatE5o7FaLzrufv7Z91q8aa9m_1Mu8yNYeYpJUTza8LQhgA6-KY8_18emnDArC3hXqxNwoMY/s2048/Mental+Health+Awareness+Month+-+Day+16+2020.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="2048" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhczamcVA9rxb8QPajVZf_IVg7lFYk0iAMcRb__Vy6dFuoJmVzW_DjneZv5ZAmuajdvTrWoatE5o7FaLzrufv7Z91q8aa9m_1Mu8yNYeYpJUTza8LQhgA6-KY8_18emnDArC3hXqxNwoMY/s320/Mental+Health+Awareness+Month+-+Day+16+2020.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;">‘</span><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CAPwxfYj925/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link" style="text-align: left;">A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step</a><span style="text-align: left;">’</span></td></tr></tbody></table><br />My journey of recovery from an eating disorder is similar to my experience with running. My path has not been linear – there have been steps forwards and steps backwards. I take one step at a time – sometimes joyfully, sometimes painfully. I decided to share my experience, strength and hope in the midst of my journey so that others know that they are not alone and healing is possible.<br /><br />Unfortunately, I continue to struggle greatly on my path.<div><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiciKlMCvGeZ8QMvtV3UnO9XriZME7PcJ73Ly0Gus2vZl1nOO2JFmCcd6lcIz2g3J6nOUGd4NOLxUdawvC7IpA2R2rD7Tui38oeiUxZmhRq5GPUQqPuhlkNeE6bET0U-2HjOl5s_DIKT1c/s628/E1UxzP0WUAAySyC.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="628" data-original-width="628" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiciKlMCvGeZ8QMvtV3UnO9XriZME7PcJ73Ly0Gus2vZl1nOO2JFmCcd6lcIz2g3J6nOUGd4NOLxUdawvC7IpA2R2rD7Tui38oeiUxZmhRq5GPUQqPuhlkNeE6bET0U-2HjOl5s_DIKT1c/s320/E1UxzP0WUAAySyC.jpg" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Where the Sidewalk Ends by <a href="http://www.twitter.com/wishtonourish">Malinda Ann Hill</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br />On March 31, I shared my story with Virginia Sole-Smith in her New York Times article “<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/well/mind/covid-eating-disorders.html">Trapped in the House with an Eating Disorder</a>” to help raise awareness.<br /><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPkAr2oDxxrxKnxIITL0gL9PosO5hnyRv3qNBEVwBi0CQC3l6_ZzzDCK-cZrgr8V7nYSauxH8hipkm6QjHm-0-BfQJtakgShgmleM6aLGB5jxjcVDYLghQ2VsPy0hQJO99jYUPECPYjic/s827/Ex4U2YaXAAMOsju.jpg" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="465" data-original-width="827" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPkAr2oDxxrxKnxIITL0gL9PosO5hnyRv3qNBEVwBi0CQC3l6_ZzzDCK-cZrgr8V7nYSauxH8hipkm6QjHm-0-BfQJtakgShgmleM6aLGB5jxjcVDYLghQ2VsPy0hQJO99jYUPECPYjic/s320/Ex4U2YaXAAMOsju.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/31/well/mind/covid-eating-disorders.html">Trapped in the House with an Eating Disorder</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br />On May 14, I was discharged from a virtual partial hospitalization program I began on March 15 because the program suddenly closed.<br /><br />On May 17, I received authorization to attend a virtual intensive outpatient program while waiting for assessments from the only <a href="https://gofund.me/91018e68">two virtual eating disorder programs approved by my insurance</a>.<br /><br />As I continue on my path of recovery, I’m supporting the <a href="http://neda.nationaleatingdisorders.org/goto/MalindaAnnHill">National Eating Disorders Association</a> (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/donate/228257288728000/">NEDA</a>), writing about my experience and compiling information.<br /><br />It has not been easy to find virtual treatment options during the pandemic and <a href="https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/">NEDA</a> offers support and resources.<br /><br />If you’ve found help or you’re willing to share your experience, please comment below.<br /><br />Thank you for your kind words and <a href="https://gofund.me/91018e68">support</a>.<br /><br />Current theme song on repeat:<div><a href="https://youtu.be/5CkF0EINlxo">“Can I Believe You” by Fleet Foxes</a><div><br /><div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div>Can I ever know your mind?</div><div>Am I handing you mine?</div><div>Do we both confide?</div><div><br /></div><div>I see it eat through every word I sow</div><div>See what you need to, do you doubt it's yours?</div><div>Now I'm learning the ropes, never get this close</div><div>I've been wounded before</div><div>Hasn't let me go</div><div><br /></div><div>It never got less strange, </div><div>showing anyone just a bare face</div><div>If I don't, well, nothing will change</div><div>Staying under my weather all day</div><div><br /></div><div>Can I believe you when you say I'm good?</div><div>I didn't need to when I wished you would</div><div>No it isn't enough</div><div>Never held that much</div><div>Now another way up</div><div>Been a row too rough</div><div><br /></div><div>It never got less strange, </div><div>showing anyone just a bare face</div><div>But if I don't, well, nothing will change</div><div>Staying under my weather all day</div><div><br /></div><div>Lately I'm wondering too</div><div>What type of desire I can break</div><div>When I'm one way with them, one with you</div><div>What half is it of me rearranged?</div><div><br /></div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div>I want to need you</div><div>I want to need you</div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div>Can I believe you?</div><div><br /></div><div>Songwriter: <a href="https://pitchfork.com/news/fleet-foxes-robin-pecknold-says-he-was-once-dangerously-and-actively-suicidal/">Robin Pecknold</a></div><div><br /></div><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5CkF0EINlxo">Can I Believe You on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert</a><br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/5CkF0EINlxo" width="320" youtube-src-id="5CkF0EINlxo"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-49322956717221195662021-05-25T13:54:00.002-04:002021-05-25T13:54:17.511-04:00“I wish you the best.” by Leah Connor<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghFQnRM8fs3-aTk-1N-T5HVmRVEkv7JNuHVZLaBgS7rVxRqOmNExCDMEjIqz3wpRCjf10d6etCvCE-FpSXoFxjDOPwPGsVvZoI6dtSViEJbMlFBVoh8FEXwzC4XTRQ3fKwORWZYcoL-EA/s1500/IN+TREATMENT.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghFQnRM8fs3-aTk-1N-T5HVmRVEkv7JNuHVZLaBgS7rVxRqOmNExCDMEjIqz3wpRCjf10d6etCvCE-FpSXoFxjDOPwPGsVvZoI6dtSViEJbMlFBVoh8FEXwzC4XTRQ3fKwORWZYcoL-EA/s320/IN+TREATMENT.jpg" /></a><br /><br />I am not a quitter. Musical instruments are about the only thing I’ve given up on, having failed miserably at the piano, then flute, the guitar, and drums.<br /><br /><img src="https://leahcville.files.wordpress.com/2021/05/camelot.jpg?w=391" /><br /><br />Although one of my shining moments in high school was playing the drums in a neighboring Catholic High School’s rendition of “Camelot.” My one and only “professional” musical gig. <br /><br />Persistence and grit have helped me become a successful long distance runner, but that inability to take a break when necessary has also left me injured and broken. (Literally! My sesamoids!) <br /><br />Knowing when to press pause, stop, or reset is as crucial as having the desire and guts to start. That’s why I only gave medals to runners who dropped out of the Rivanna Greenbelt Marathon rather than those who finished. I knew how difficult it was to DNF because I have only done it twice in 13 years of running 100s of races. Ending one race before the finish line does not mean you’ve entirely given up on your goals. It just means you’ve delayed trying to achieve one on a particular day when the odds were not in your favor in hopes of being more likely to achieve it in the future on a better day. <br /><br />I’ve found every journey — it’s beginning, ending, and everything in between — yields it’s best results when there are clear boundaries and guidelines. I always read the event rules, employee handbook, and informed consent. I am determined to follow my own personal moral code. Breaking the rules might not always get you disqualified, hurt, or fired, but there is no inherent victory in living in a world where you’re beyond reproach or accountability. <br /><br />I have never been one to decidedly and permanently end any personal relationship… to ignore or erase someone willingly from my life. I will always leave the door open. I’m not resistant to apologizing myself when I’m wrong and I will always graciously accept an apology from anyone no matter how long it takes. <br /><br />My husband is self-described as aloof, but he makes me laugh which, to me, is essential for any healthy relationship. I might not always get the emotional support I want or need, but we have a bond that’s lasted since we first met in 1994. When we moved to Charlottesville I had no local friends and yearned for connection so I chose therapy as an option to guide me on a path to personal growth and positive change. I hoped I could improve my self-esteem and develop the skills to comfort and care for myself. <br /><br />It’s been difficult for me to admit and thoroughly process, but I had a very unhealthy and emotionally damaging relationship with a therapist that began on September 22, 2006 and permanently ended on July 29, 2020. I didn’t officially quit or terminate the therapy. I had tried numerous times since 2007, with varying degrees of success. (Success being the length of time that lapsed between sessions, the longer it was, the more successful.)<br /><br />I last saw him in-person for a session on February 19, 2018, but there were a few random encounters and emails before my final attempt to schedule an appointment in July 2020 when I was struggling with changes relating to the pandemic as well as work. We emailed a bit back and forth with a joke and emojis. He offered me a couple potential times to meet, but when I made a thoughtful and detailed request for a virtual session rather than in-person because of COVID-19 concerns and my insurance coverage, his harshly dismissive, insensitive, two-word response was<br />“I’ll pass.”<br /><br /> <img height="212" src="https://leahcville.files.wordpress.com/2021/05/ill-pass.jpg?w=500" width="320" /><br /><br />It took me 40 days to process those two words and to respond to him, but before I did, I finally filed a complaint with the Enforcement Division of the Department of Health Professions about his abusive behavior, specifically the blurred boundaries, dual relationships, billing issues, and frequent outbursts of anger. <br /><br />There are doors that are closed, others locked, doors we can easily open, others we gladly shut on our own, and then there are doors that hit us on the way out. I had a door hit me as I left my therapist’s office after a heated political argument (yes, so many things wrong with that scenario). It scared me and scarred me emotionally, but even that didn’t keep me from trying to salvage the relationship one more time rather than officially quit. <br /><br />I’ve found that I’m most frustrated when there’s no clarity or when I feel like I’m being ignored and that’s been my experience as I’ve waited the 9 months since this investigation began. Without any final resolution, I’m still ruminating and analyzing, trying to find the meaning in past words, actions or inactions, to ascribe motives.<br /><br />If I think about what harmed me the most … it wasn’t the inappropriate out of session communications, the half of a red velvet cake he gave me on my 40th birthday, his oversharing of personal, family, and health information, the unwarranted criticisms of me or my husband, or the dependency on him he fostered with the frequency of appointments and no clear treatment plan … it was the anger, the rage, especially when I dared to question his own intentions, behaviors, or business practices. <br /><br />Almost everyone who’s been to therapy has a hidden desire to feel special or unique, to want to know what the therapist really thinks about them, to be liked, to be cared for, and maybe even to blur those boundaries in an effort to redefine the relationship. Trust me: those boundaries are there to protect you, the client. If a therapist doesn’t respect them, run away and, if you can, report it to the licensing board.<br /><br />My dysfunctional therapy was a secret for a long time, but when I first described the dynamics of the relationship to another therapist who I had been seeing with my husband for couples therapy, he asked if I had seen the movie “Gaslight.” The term gaslighting has become more popular over the past 5 years, but back in 2007 it was a foreign concept to me. I quickly googled it and learned how appropriately it applied to my situation.<br /><br />I have an intuition and sense about people that’s very good, but I started doubting my own gut feelings that something was very wrong in this case. I shouldn’t have. I know now I never was misreading the situation, that this therapist acted inappropriately and unprofessionally and for whatever reason we had a stormy relationship that I couldn’t quit and he would never end by referring me to another professional.<br /><br />Yes, I have issues and I’m probably the first to willingly admit all of my faults, my anxieties and indignations, but I’ve come to learn that it wasn’t just me who was treated in a harmful manner by this therapist. I found quite a number of online reviews that are frighteningly similar to my own experience.<br /><br />I feel a bit guilty, but it’s actually comforting to find out that he was explosive, rude, disrespectful, threatening, mean, controlling, and unprofessional with other clients, it wasn’t just me.<br /><br />I always made excuses for his outbursts … I deserved it, I’m difficult, I have a hard time letting good things in so when he did say nice things about me it was hard to believe it, so in a way I misinterpreted his anger as intimacy that I could not reject out of hand. <br /><br />But if I’m honest, I probably would be rather upset to find out that he lied to me when he said I knew more about his personal life than anyone else he ever worked with and I will definitely need to address that seriously messed-up feeling with a future counselor.<br /><br />Having a therapist repeatedly violate boundaries should NOT feel like a badge of honor, but it was one of the reasons I never reported him. Until now, I couldn’t even consider that I might be just one of many victims because I didn’t want to even see myself as a victim. I completely rationalized the experience, blamed myself for pushing and testing him, and for asking all the questions that he freely answered.<br /><br />If it wasn’t just me who he took advantage of and used for his own personal and financial needs would that make me even more pathetic for convincing myself to keep trying to make it work and never quitting despite so much misery and so many red flags? Although I didn’t want to know the answer, I could no longer live with myself if I didn’t at least try to do something to prevent this from happening to anyone else. I have to hope that my complaint could possibly protect other potential clients from his insensitivity and anger.<br /><br />Even though waiting for resolution is excruciating, I immediately felt empowered when I finally took action and had conversations with the investigator and my insurance company. Every time someone listened to my story and told me this wasn’t right or it wasn’t uncommon, I felt somewhat validated.<br /><br />It’s probably impossible for me to get all the answers and clarity I seek, to understand why this happened to me, but I do hope there will be an official record about my experience as “Client A” and for the board to acknowledge there was a violation even if there’s no disciplinary action. <br /><br />Two days after I filed the formal complaint I sent my final message to my former therapist:<br /><br />Subject: “I’m a person, not a piece of pizza.”<br />It’s taken 40 days to process 2 words. <br />I’m at peace knowing that your message was unethical, unprofessional, and wrong. <br />We had a therapeutic relationship on and off since September 22, 2006. <br />You pass on a piece of pizza, not a person. I deserve better.<br /><br />His response two days later was nothing like any other message he ever sent me, it seemed more likely written by a lawyer or an HR manager. Of course there was no apology for his previous insensitive two-word rejection, rather it ended with, “I wish you the best.”<div><br /></div><div> <img height="640" src="https://leahcville.files.wordpress.com/2021/05/119176384_10220574500247373_1254396902022180385_n.jpg?w=768" width="512" /><br /><br />Ok, I really wish he would have sent that message instead of “I’ll pass.”<br /><br />The good news in all of this is that I’m finally becoming more comfortable with myself and am better at creating and respecting boundaries. As I’ve been more honest about my past experiences, I’m optimistic and hopeful for future personal growth and am grateful to have a new counselor who I trust to work with when I’m ready.<br /><br />If you never watching HBO’s “In Treatment”, I’d highly recommend it. The episodes with Paul and his mentor Gina in seasons 1 and 2 and psychiatrist Adele in season 3 are great examinations of the importance of boundaries.<br /><br />Related Articles:<br /><br /><a href="https://www.zurinstitute.com/boundaries-in-hbos-in-treatment/">“In Treatment”: Therapeutic Boundaries & Ethical Issues in the 2nd HBO TV Series</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.chron.com/entertainment/article/In-Treatment-depicts-a-realistic-end-of-a-1733960.php">In Treatment depicts a realistic end of a patient-therapist relationship</a><br /><br /><a href="https://jung-at-heart.com/2009/04/06/in-treatment-gina/">In Treatment: Gina</a><br /><br /><a href="https://jung-at-heart.com/2009/04/06/in-treatment-gina/">In Treatment recap: Adele proves her skill</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.zurinstitute.com/boundaries-in-therapy/">To Cross Or Not To Cross: Do Boundaries In Therapy Protect Or Harm?</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.macleans.ca/culture/is-a-therapist-allowed-to-do-that/">Is a therapist allowed to do that?</a><br /><br /><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-73862937303070171022021-05-20T12:27:00.001-04:002021-05-20T12:27:28.348-04:00 Twins Run 50K Challenge Recap<p><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9546.jpeg" width="300" /></p><p><a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/blog/twins-run-50k-race-recap">Twins Run 50K Challenge Recap</a></p>5/20/2021<br /><br />I'm unofficially an ultramarathoner! I finished my 50K challenge on my 50th birthday on May 18.<br /><br />A HUGE shout-out goes to Sean, an extremely talented ultramarathoner who's training for a 200 mile race and slogged with me for many of the first 26.2 miles. Thank you Sean for the great conversation and encouragement. And, for joining my sister for a walk while I had to take an emergency trip home to deal with some GI issues, but I'll get to that in a bit!<br /><br />Even though I never knew <a href="https://runsignup.com/Race/BruceBarnesMile/Page/bruce">Bruce Barnes</a>, Sean is the perfect example of someone like him. Sean is both an amazing athlete and a super nice guy who gives back to the sport by volunteering for races and training programs . . . always there with a smile to support everyone else on the course. We're so lucky to have Sean in the Charlottesville running community. You're an inspiration and role model. Thank you!<div><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-8837_orig.jpeg" width="300" /><br /><br />So how did it go? I couldn't sleep well because for two full days beforehand I had severe burning gut pain and GI issues (I'm 50, time to schedule the colonoscopy!). My twin sister and I grabbed the cooler and supplies and started walking the 1.28 miles to Darden Towe Park at 4:28 a.m.<br /><br />On Monday, I chalked my sidewalk and part of the trail with inspirational messages a couple friends sent me (thanks Ryan and Kayla!) as well as a few others that motivate me. It was great to see those as I headed out the door!<br /><br /><img height="320" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/chalkthewalkleah_orig.jpg" width="315" /><br /><br /><img height="320" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/chalkthewalkleah.jpg" width="315" /><div><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-8796.jpg" width="300" /><div><br /><img height="240" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9543.jpeg" width="320" /><br /><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9548-copy.jpeg" width="300" /></div><div><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9550-copy.jpeg" width="300" /></div><div><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9552-copy.jpeg" width="300" /></div><div><br /><img height="300" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9553-copy.jpeg" width="400" /></div><div><br /><img height="400" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/img-9555-copy.jpeg" width="300" /><br /><br />I told Sean I might be cursing him later because I knew I ran those first 6 miles too "fast." Then around 10K I realized I was having the need to find a bathroom, but the portapotty was gone and the bathroom doors were locked. Sidenote: one of the reasons I chose to run on the Darden Towe side of the Rivanna rather than Riverview Park was because of real bathrooms, however I forgot they wouldn't be accessible until the park was officially open. Whoops! I debated what to do, but talked it over with Sean and decided to run home since it was only about a mile away.<br /><br />I'll spare you the details, but suffice to say I didn't make it back to my own toilet and had to find a tree to hide behind to take care of some emergency business in a plastic bag that I fortunately had with me. My predicament reminded me of my dad's "glad I had that jar of peanuts" traffic jam story that always has me on the floor laughing when he tells it. This was a "race" so I never stopped my watch and lost about 12 minutes changing clothes and trying to pull myself together before I got back out on the road again. </div><div><br /></div><div><img height="254" src="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/editor/img-8950.jpg?1621514659" width="400" /></div><div><br /></div><div>I have a smile on my face around mile 12 when I had fresh clothes and shoes after a pit stop at home.<br /><br />Around mile 20 I took another walking break to change clothes and use the bathroom. It was at that point that I was trying to do the math to figure out if I would be able to finish the marathon portion of the challenge under the finish time of my 1st marathon (5:17:03). My Garmin was starting to show the low battery warning so I new I was going to have to stop it and switch to Strava for the rest of my challenge anyway. After talking it over with Sean I realized if I kept at the current slog pace under 12 minute miles I could definitely do it if I hustled a little and that's why mile 26 was the fastest mile since mile 6. I hit 26.2 at 5:16:26.<br /><br />I thought Malinda would appreciate it if I stopped my Garmin at 5:18:00, but it actually added a second, doh! Of course now I think it would have been even cooler to have the full date, 5:18:21, as the first segment of my challenge, but oh well. :)<br /><br />I took a few selfies with Sean and said goodbye and gave myself the greenlight to just walk the rest of the 50K because it was getting warm and I didn't feel like pushing it.<br /><br />Luckily Fran finished his grading and was able to drop off a Starbucks Venti Caffe Misto with whole milk, 6 packets of Splenda, 6 pumps of Which Chocolate Mocha Sauce and 4 shots of espresso. This is my go-to free 50 stars reward drink. Normally, I only get 4 pumps of sauce to save on calories, but I was starting to get HANGRY!<br /><br />As I walked my last 5 miles I mobile ordered a lot of Thai food and started to catch Pokemon. My sister was in therapy and my husband was grabbing the food, so I finished my 50K with 5.18 miles on Strava all alone in front of my house. I looked again at the messages I wrote on the stairs:</div><div><br />OUR DOUBTS ARE TRAITORS<br />BE KIND<br />YOU MATTER<br /><br />The past year has been quite a journey and I am so grateful that I was able to spend my 50th birthday walking with my best friend (my twin!), running with a great guy (Sean!), raising almost $2K for Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation, and receiving so many awesome Flat Twin photos from friends and family across the country.<br /><br />Thank you to everyone who helped celebrate this milestone birthday. You have no idea how much your support means to my sister and me. It gives us such joy and comfort to know people care.<br /><br />It's not too late to share a <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/flat-twin-gallery.html">photo</a>, <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/chalk-the-walk.html">positive message</a>, or <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/donate.html">donation</a>. We like to think of it as our "Birthday Month"!</div></div><div><br /></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7228166098740431431.post-33093560505520944572021-05-20T03:16:00.002-04:002021-05-20T04:08:50.176-04:00Celebrate Our 50th Birthday with FLAT TWINS RUN (#TwinsRun50)<div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEis6YKzcVlfyvSMt7Q9ynvv2omh6Cqne3cqCueGDCKwPxpKfNAk84dMjs9PDQCEWVYMPyoYO_og8AsotBw-ev9fjL0WeFD4JaHdFNB0N5swZgKmRcx5RNs2Wn9_I7d3ZK3IKlvbfkkR55o/s748/TWINS+RUN+50.jpg"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEis6YKzcVlfyvSMt7Q9ynvv2omh6Cqne3cqCueGDCKwPxpKfNAk84dMjs9PDQCEWVYMPyoYO_og8AsotBw-ev9fjL0WeFD4JaHdFNB0N5swZgKmRcx5RNs2Wn9_I7d3ZK3IKlvbfkkR55o/s320/TWINS+RUN+50.jpg" /></a></div><br /><br />It's not too late to share a <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/flat-twin-gallery.html">photo</a>, <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/chalk-the-walk.html">positive message</a>, or <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/donate.html">donation</a> to <a href="https://www.alexslemonade.org/mypage/1121983">Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation for Childhood Cancer</a>. We like to think of May as our "Birthday Month" since one day is not enough time to celebrate 50 years of life together!<br /><br />Please help us celebrate our 50th Birthday this month by sharing a photo with the FLAT TWINS! If you don't have one, you can <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/flattwinsrun50.pdf">download & print a copy</a>.<div><br />Take a selfie or, if you're camera shy, set up a photo in a place that's special to you or with your pet. </div><div><br /></div><div>Take photos with your <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/uploads/5/7/6/0/57609265/flattwinsrun50.pdf">favorite twin</a> or both of us to celebrate our <a href="https://runsignup.com/twinsrun50">50th Birthday</a> and share on Social Media with the hashtag <a href="http://www.instagram.com/twinsrun">#TwinsRun50 </a>or use our <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdIuL3UynEKI3qx8aLLRHtMBTDsP8QUq-w2lRBW61i0xCWlOg/viewform">Google form to upload</a>!</div><div><br /></div><div>Share by so you can be part of our <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/flat-twin-gallery.html">#TwinsRun50 montage</a>. Deadline is May 31<br /></div><div><br />ICYMI: <a href="http://www.facebook.com/runleahruncville">Leah</a> finished her <a href="https://runsignup.com/twinsrun50">Twins Run 50(K)</a> at Darden Towe, <a href="https://leahcville.wordpress.com/2021/05/09/twinsrun50k/">learn what motivated her</a>!<div><br /></div><a href="http://www.twitter.com/leahcville">Leah</a> wrote about asking for help to celebrate my birthday and my job hunt for my <a href="https://leahcville.wordpress.com/">blog</a> and would love for you to read it! <a href="https://leahcville.wordpress.com/">https://leahcville.wordpress.com/</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahannconnor/">Leah </a>will be writing soon about finishing her first 50K ultramarathon on our 50th birthday to raise almost $2,000 for Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation.<br /><br />If you can donate $5 to our Birthday Fundraiser for <a href="https://www.twinsrun.com/donate.html">Alex's Lemonade Stand for Childhood Cancer</a>.</div><div><br /></div><div>Your generous donations are greatly appreciated!</div><div><div><br /><br /></div></div>TWINS RUN in our familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15542937174719440182noreply@blogger.com0